Re: Fear
Being nervous/scared is normal especially when you hear crazy stories like we do on GS sometimes. Especially in arranged marriages where you feel you have no control or say. In realiy, you do.
All you can do is just make sure you voice your opinions to your parents. They have to know how you feel and take that into consideration. By the same token, dont be so picky that you overlook a gem because his nose is too long or his hair isnt the way you want. These things dont matter in the long run, the way he treats you is much more important.
At the end of the day, its all a gamble. Arranged or love marriage, doesnt matter. You wont be able to find out everything about a person just because you fell in love. There will be a ton of surprises when you start to live together. In arranged marriages, at least the expectations are low because you dont know the person and cant predict how its going to be.