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But I am afraid of dying before my kids are emotionally stable to handle the death of a parent. And that is why I pray to Allah for my sehat and life for as long as he can spare me.
there always is a wish to remain fulfilled. My parents are visiting me these days and we were talking last night. Ammi was like
"bus hamarey samney XXXx (my younger brother - he is 29) ki shadi ho jayee. uss ke fiker lagee rehtee hai"
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@TLK & Saby - you funny stuffed monkeys! 
I can imagine you chatting with each other looking at your watches and be like, “dang, where’s God…?” O wait, that won’t happen most likely since you will just seize to exist. 
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personally im not afraid of death. i should pass the initial questions. but when it comes to hisab i dont wanna be screwed
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Worse than drowning, cancer. My dad's cousin told me that his uncle in India in the 1970s had prostrate cancer and every night for weeks would scream into his pillow in pain until he fell asleep 'till the day he finally died. .
:(
The other day I was telling my wife that we should thank Allah for bringing us into this world in advance age where medical science is really advance. Only few decades ago, people used to die out of malaria and even a simple high fever out of infection. Thank god it does not happen for most of the part.
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:(
The other day I was telling my wife that we should thank Allah for bringing us into this world in advance age where medical science is really advance. Only few decades ago, people used to die out of malaria and even a simple high fever out of infection. Thank god it does not happen for most of the part.
so true but at the same time those slowly poisoning diseases like heart diseases, stroke, HIV and all forms of progressive cancers have increased significantly too. Plus the way we are going to die and the time it is after all predefined.
This thread is getting too morbid :(
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I want to be honest, as of now, I dont want to live a very long life, just enough to get things done. I want my kids, when they have there own families and what not, not to be worried bout my emotional or physical health.
Here is a message for you in the words of joan osborne
what if god was one of us
Just a stranger on the bus
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i dont know man
you cant be really thank for not being born in the past (coz u dont really know how what time was)
advance age its a mere term used there is nothign advance in this time. its just a different era
before it may have been magic/sorcery now its tech
before they has simple diseases (compared to today) now we have the most complex ones
so we cant really come to a conclusion in this regard
:(
The other day I was telling my wife that we should thank Allah for bringing us into this world in advance age where medical science is really advance. Only few decades ago, people used to die out of malaria and even a simple high fever out of infection. Thank god it does not happen for most of the part.
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so true but at the same time those slowly poisoning diseases like** heart diseases, stroke, HIV and all forms of progressive cancers **have increased significantly too. Plus the way we are going to die and the time it is after all predefined.
How do we know that those diseases did not exist back then. Just because no one was qualified enough to diagnose them, does not mean that we did not have them.
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HOw selfish 
What about the rest of us who want to spend our old age with you 
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Jaan dii - dii hovi ushi ki Thee
haq tu yea hai k Haq ada na hova
well I am ready to meet him any day /any time ... The world wasnt at halt before me nor it is going to be after me :)
Jis dhaJ se koi maQtal mein gaya wo shaaN salamat rahte hai
yea jaaN tu aani jaani hai - is jaaN ki koi baat nahii
:)
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increased signifiicantly I meant. Obviously they would have been there but now as we see heart diseases have become a modern epidemic. Cancer too. All owing to breakthrough advancement in techonology and araam pasandi 
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i dont know man
you cant be really thank for not being born in the past (coz u dont really know how what time was)
advance age its a mere term used there is nothign advance in this time. its just a different era
before it may have been magic/sorcery now its tech
before they has simple diseases (compared to today) now we have the most complex ones
so we cant really come to a conclusion in this regard
No dude, I dont agree. only till about 200 years ago, the only difference between the life of a rich man and poor man is maybe the size of their cattle or number of wives. Other than that, the quality of life was same (no clean water, no electricity, no proper medical care). Now if you work hard in your life, you get rewarded in such abundance that its not even funny. That means that life has more to offer now than in any time in the known history.
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when I said “just enough to get things done” - being their for the emotional needs of my family was included
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I do not fear death. I would just be really sad like .. Aww man, game's over?
What else fear is, a feeling of loss for a thing dear to you.
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no there was a huge difference btween the quality of life between the rich and poor even 200 years ago
regardless
again going back to the basic - you or i cannot compare the two and decide which one was better because you or i have not lived in that the only read about it
No dude, I dont agree. only till about 200 years ago, the only difference between the life of a rich man and poor man is maybe the size of their cattle or number of wives. Other than that, the quality of life was same (no clean water, no electricity, no proper medical care). Now if you work hard in your life, you get rewarded in such abundance that its not even funny. That means that life has more to offer now than in any time in the known history.
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What else fear is, a feeling of loss for a thing dear to you.
No, that's pure sadness and still being okay with losing what's dear to you. Fear is not wanting to let go or not wanting to face what's obviously unknown to us. Fear of the unknown is the biggest fear. I am not afraid of death, I would be ecstatic to find out if there IS life after death but I sure as hell hope it's not determined by God.
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How many of you are afraid of facing your death? and if you are, are you afraid from your perspective like "mera kiya hoga after I am dead" or from your family's perspective like "family ka kya hoga after I am gone".
Basically, are you afraid of death, or just untimely death?
:( I don't know. Sometimes when I really think about it I just cannot picture myself getting older, past 30 my mind draws a blank. (then again I thought the same when I was 16....so maybe its just me).
I don't know if this is a "religious" answer but yes I would be more scared of facing God and punishment for sins, than leaving anybody behind. Selfish? Maybe.
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I am scared for my own akhirah. Not really for my family... no one depends on me as of now so that's not a worry yet... and yeah my loved ones are going to be wrecked but life goes on. I didn't think my mum would be able to live a normal life when nana abu passed away.. but she's doing great Alhumdulillah. You never really get over it but you accept it and you move on with your life.
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you or i cannot compare the two and decide which one was better because you or i have not lived in that the only read about it
keeping that logic, we cannot and should not learn anything from history because we never lived history, only read about it.
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no no no thats a totally incorrect application of 'my logic'
keeping that logic, we cannot and should not learn anything from history because we never lived history, only read about it.