Hey all,
I’ve heard that to mothers all of her children are equal; but is that really the case? Do mothers have their faviourites?
The reason I ask is that I know my mother loves me but I have this feeling that I always come second whenever there is an issue with my brother. This is probably because I haven’t “supported” her during domestic disputes as I have always remained neutral.
Your thoughts?
Re: Favourites?
ma kay dil mein her bachay ka khana alag hai... she does love all her children but there may be a special love she may have for one particular child for many reasons.. the kid may take care of her more than their siblings... they may be her rock whom she can turn to in a crisis.. anything really....even blind love could be a factor where the mother is totally oblivious to her other kids and only focus' on that one child (even if they are a menace) to society .....
a lot of reasons.. lekin yes... a mother does love all her children but i doubt its equally....(and im not talkin bout 9-10 yr olds here ...but grown up kids like u and i )
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I don't know. I'm a gori, and if my parents favored one of us over another, they never openly showed it. They were really insistent on equity between us. If one got a new toy, so did the other, if one went to a birthday party, the other did something fun as well, if only with the parent at home. Even now, they spent an equal amount on our education, etc.
My hubs grew up constantly being told that he is the favorite child by everyone, he received more, two of his siblings were raised by relatives, and to this is still treated better than his brothers.
My FIL tried to continue the tradition by telling my son that he loves him better than all of his other grandchildren, but my husband told him to stop. My son tells him to stop now that he is older, as his daada will be in front of everyone and just say "oh, r and s are the only grandchildren i love", and my son will just be horrified. I think it depends from family to family.
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It's dumb but I used to think my parents loved my bro more coz he got more freedom , was allowed to do everything, etc. But I know better now.
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mothers do love all their kids equally but there's always a favourite one. I think my parents favour my one brother over the rest of us but they never openly showed it. they try really hard to keep it equal.
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my parents try to keep it equal. we all have the same curfew, same freedom limits, expectations and stuff. but still sometimes my bros get away with things i would never get away with. but then again culture plays a role too, and like most moms my mum always says "they are boys" :(
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Parents love their children equally. However, if you still have doubts then take it to 'maachis'.