Im an only child so due to a lack of competition iv always been the favourite child…
Just wondering whether the parents here pick favourites and be honest…do you have a favourite son?..do you prefer your third daughter etc…is it natural to have favourites or can you honestly treat your kids equally…im not suggesting you dont love them equally but it must be natural to have a favourite…
And as an extension to that does the way you choose your favourites have anything to do with how you were when you were young…do you reckon not being a favourite or being a favourite as a child is important when you have your own kids…
Were any of you jealous of that brother that mummy justy loved instead of you?..or were any of you that favourite that got treated better than any of your other siblings…please share…
I got two daughters and both with huge age gap, totally different in personalities and appearance.
I do love them both so much from all my soul...in some ways slightly differently cos they have diff needs and respond differently...... But I gotto say there is a kind of little tiny place in my heart just reserved only for my first child cos she n I been thru so much together. And she understands things and I feel for her.
But then again my 2nd baby so innocent and charming too and so I guess another special place for her in my heart too... Anyway, they are both jealous of each other in their own ways.
I agree with aly-sam. I love all 3 of mine so very much and I think I love them each a bit differently but i have to say equally. Of couse, there ARE times when it doesnt feel like it when one or the other is acting up lol! But truly, i cant see loving one more than the other.
This is one of the biggest reasons y my hubz and i havnt had any more kids yet. We give all of our attention and focus on our 1 child and she is the centre of our world. He thinks she deserves all of our time and shudnt have to share us with another child when shes still so young herself. I was lucky i had her young so i can keep a huge gap between them. If we did have another 1, id make sure theres a big gap between them cos id want the 2nd one to have the same equal quality time the 1st one had with us. I cant really answer ur question NBN until ive had another 1!
From my dad’s first marriage my sister, and from the second marriage I think my little sister is the most spoiled by her mother cuz she’s the only daughter there but the second son is her favorite (i cant figure out WHY), and my baby brother is my dads favorite… I dont like how they play favorites so obviously
I have 2 older brothers and I think I was Daddy's little girl/favorite...maybe becuz I was the baby of the family...and they had a girl after so many prayers...who knows. But Abu loves all 3 of us equally, but I guess in different ways as mentioned. However mommy loves us all equally :) Ive asked many times...hehe
As for me just have 1 baby boy, and I gotta say he is the world for me. Not sure how it'd be if I had a 2nd child. I pray I can gove equal love, but im sure like the ladies mentioned you love different things about each child.
aww cute replies every1...i m the youngest in my family so i do have a special spot i think every youngest member of teh family does.....so to say i m the ladli of the family thought i m 22 but still a baby for them......i think parents definately luv all their kids equally BUT the relationship they have with every1 can be diff...2 some they mite be close that cud be cuz of alot of circumstances...similar personalities or some incident bonding them 2gether...somehow im possesive abt my things but neva abt people...i mean if i feel one of my parents is paying more attention to the other sibling i wont make an issue out of it but ya if i m down someday i mite think abt it...lol..its kinda funnie...its hard 2 tell how it is but ya....hmmm...bottom line i m very happy being the youngest in my family....i get my way out in every case hehe n i get pampered n love by every1...dats FUN!
I'm the only girl in the family. So my parents and my family are really protective of me. However I beleive my older two brothers being the first with 3 yrs gap inbetween them had the most attention since they were the first one's. They ate more, got more, had more of everything. The youngest of my brother was treated however differently, not as much as the older two. But I notice all of a sudden when I was born it feels like there was this barbed wire gate built around me which no one could touch or talk to, and so being so protected by my family it hindered my self-esteem and made me into an insecure person,,,, as being the only girl my parents always had a look out for who i talked to, who I hung out with at school and everything and anything including picking out my clothes in the morning for me. I didnt have much say in my life when I was young. My dad was extra protective and mum was just tooo sensitive who could not bare the thought of anything happening to me, she even went on school trips with me I remember until I was in middle school. I guess I was spoiled as well. Having said this however, I beleive there is still a really deep feeling that my mum has for my older two brothers as they were her first kids and she went through first experiences with them. I guess with every houshold its a different story.
this often happens . the middle child is jolly , mostly happy , helping , forgiving , loving and caring .
without the middle child the family would lack all the laughter of this world .
I have to smile at those of you who think you're the "favorite"! I bet each of your brothers or sisters would say the same exact thing lol! And I'd also bet that you "faves" dont yet have your own little ones!
Its nice tho, that your parents make you feel loved and special.
You know my dad is very particular to show that he has no favourites. he treats all of us equally. I can honestly remember no time where favored one over the other. My mother on the other hand, has the soft spot for our only brother who also happens to be the youngest. Not to say that i didnt have a special relationship with her because i was the oldest, but my brother is hands down her fav. She is the one who hides food for him if he wasnt at dinner. My dad on the other hand does it for me and sis cuz he probably knows mom may forget :D
i'm da youngest among 8 siblings, so not only am i mom's fav but my elder siblings used to dote on me until they got married. in a way that was really painful, when suddenly they found a life a partner and kinda ditched me :D but i understood that when i got married.
as for my son, he's da only one i have so no competition for him.
i was the only child for about 5 years. and while i wanted another brother desperatly, when he did finally arrive, i couldn’t believe the attention he got from everyone from my parents to my extended family. and i was really bitter for many many years. i mean now i love him to death, don’t get me wrong. but those first couple of years i absolutely hated him (while loving him too )
