how do you guyz interact with your father?
what do you expect from him in your life?
if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him.
if you dont have one, then how do you make decisions?
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how do you guyz interact with your father?
**With the most warmth, love, affection, respect yet friendliness.
**what do you expect from him in your life?
**Everything because he is my everything :)
**if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him.
**He's the only one along Ami, after Allah whom i can trust for help.
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v good topic
i wouldnt be here if it wasnt for him
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i wouldnt be here if it wasnt for him
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ofc zobia
dont listen to these ppl below u
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how do you guyz interact with your father?
in dreams ..
what do you expect from him in your life?
He did whatever he could .. :)
if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him.
emm .. yes!
**if you dont have one, then how do you make decisions?
**by myself
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My father is very loving and caring person. He always have supported me emotionally..whenever i would feel down. He always have encouraged me to do good. Though, i have had up and downs in relationship with him. We usually clash in ideals. I do not support culture ideals and he does (probably because he grew up in Pakistan).
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**how do you guyz interact with your father?
*We talk on the phone 2-3x/wk(they live in a diff. city). As for our interaction, these days it's of mutual respect and caring. He recognizes the fact that I'm an adult and does not interfere in my life. He always listens to me....gives me his opinions...and lets me know that no matter what, he's always there for me.
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what do you expect from him in your life?
**At this stage, I want him to be there for me emotionally. I expect him to respect my decisions regarding my life...even when he doesn't agree with them.
**if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him?
**No, not always. I realize that my mom/dad won't be alive forever...there will be a day when I won't have them to give me solutions. So while I look for their advice when I'm having problems....I try to solve my problems on my own as much as possible.
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*how do you guyz interact with your father?
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i speak with my mom every day but will speak with my dad only if there is something important to discuss or if he picks the phone. A lovely but very disciplened and a strong personality that i can never speak louder if he is around. When speaking with a third person in the family, i always refer him as Abbu but the funny thing is that whenever i need to address him myself, i never use any word like Abbu/Dad/Papa etc and just call him "aap" (curious to know if any one else does like that?)
what do you expect from him in your life?
He has done all he could have done for us, now it is my turn to pay him back and so far i am trying my level best. I could be nothing if he was not standing behind me when i was in growing age.
*if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him.
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I keep family away from my personal issues and avoid discussing such things at home (all because of the cofindence i gained from him ovr the years of my life). He is still head of the family and always handles the common family issues himself without any need to ask
great topic to discuss and l loved writing here.
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how do you guyz interact with your father?
He was always my best friend. I am the eldest child so both my parents have very special relationship with me. I was so close to my dad and always shared his problems like a friend. Since I also worked with him and assisted him, most of my time was spent with him. I think Allah wanted to spend me as much time as I could since he was about to leave us soon.
what do you expect from him in your life?
I never had unexpected demands from my dad. I know that he always provided us the best of what he could.
if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him.
He always made me strong. I remember, how a day before he passed away when he was admitted in ICU, he asked me to be strong and always have full faith on Allah since He could never do anything not right for us.
if you dont have one, then how do you make decisions?
I miss him terribly. However, my family has come closer after we lost my dad and we consult each other and try to remember what would my dad do in such a situation and what decision would he take.
My answers are in blue...
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how do you guyz interact with your father?
email and phone every few days, Skype on weekends.
when he is here i hang with him in the evenings and have breakfast together.
He is a man of few words in general, very disciplined, organized person often mistaken for a military person. he is very soft spoken and very caring. while not open with his words, he is open with gestures which may be meaningless to people who don't know him, but we know them all now.
aside from being not a very talkative person, he is not a phone person and neither am I. so phone conversations tend to be short but more frequent.every so often, but he just likes being around and thats his way, off and on I have caught him looking at me and smiling if I am disciplining the kids or working on something.
On the surface a very simple, but in reality a very complex man.
even when he is here, sometimes we just hang in the same room, reading or watching telly making small talk
what do you expect from him in your life?
guidance, support, and love
he is the only one who believed in me and my capabilities when no one else would.
paying for my uni in US when i was on the verge of flunking out and unsure of my career choices.
nuff said
if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him.
for better or for worse i try not to burden them with my challenges and issues, usually they are informed after i have sorted the stuff or have solutions in front of me and i need to make decisions and want perspectives. we may not always agree but he has a very solid logical approach and can put my reasoning through its paces to make sure I am not drinking my own koolaid. I do however get his advise as often as possible. Much of my decision to not bother him or ammi with these things are because certain people around us seem to burden them with every little bakwaas that they should by now be able to handle on their own but don't and burden others with the stress.
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:k:
No wonder why you are one of the veryyyyyy few members at GS who make sense to me. With a father like this, it is quite difficult to go wrong :).
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My answers are in blue...
if you dont have one, then how do you make decisions?
I miss him terribly. However, my family has come closer after we lost my dad and we consult each other and try to remember what would my dad do in such a situation and what decision would be take.
that is what I do to simulate when making decision.
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**i lost my both parents at an early age. as far as i remember, my dad was a veryu loving and caring person who spent a lot of time with us which wasn't the norm back then in a rural India set-up. i remember he used to take me to walks and play cricket, gulli DanDa, carrom with me. he never beat me, not even a slap. he never scolded me. i miss both of them. i lost my mom when i was 9 so i do remember her to be very nice to all of us.
May Allah grant them jannat...aameen**
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Aameen 
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how do you guyz interact with your father?
I live with him, so see him every day. When I use to live away, it was usually by phone or sms. Dad is not big on texting, but he use to write me every now and then, because he knew I like texting. Nowadays he is in Pak, so he is texting from there as well. :)
what do you expect from him in your life?
I feel he has done everything he could for me in life. He is truly a great man and I have loads of admiration for him. What I expect from him: guidance and inspiration.
if you are in trouble, do you always get solution from him.
I try not to worry my parents about problems usually. But if I know it is something I need help with, I def. know he has or will find a solution for it.
**if you dont have one, then how do you make decisions?
**Some decisions are made together with him and mom (major once). Smaller decisions are just made along the way.
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I have such a unique relationship with my Dad. I am so attached to him and I would choose him over anything. He had to be both a mother and father to us due to my Mum's illness. So it's like we've only had one parent... but the weird thing is we express nothing and we are very shy of him as well. He is like a stanger because we've never disscussed "rishtas" and whenever he comes around I cover my body (dupata) and I can't just walk around in a tee shirt and pajama's in front of him because it feels odd.... he's never said not to, nor would he say anything but we just don't do such things in front of him. I can't disscuss anything with him, only basic issues. He doesn'tknow much about my social life, friends. We are basically his life and he needs us to feel complete. He does anything and everything for us. He has very manipulating personality, he gets us to do whatever he wants and he doesn't even have to say anything. At the same time, when we want something he has never said no, like we know we can get away with basically anything but we usually don't because we're scared to dissapoint him. Basically all of us siblings are constantly trying to impress him, like we want him to be proud of us so we do little little things that impress him. He's super calm so we've never been yelled at or hit, it's like inner fear, which I never really understand myself lol
He's very religious and does a lot of work for the deen so he is very social and has amazing principles mashallah. He loves people and people love him so our house is a zoo most of the time! People always tell us how lucky we are to have him because of all the little things he does for us
I have such a hard time explaining my relationship with my Dad.