father disclosed my personal matter to family friends

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Re: father disclosed my personal matter to family friends

@Fefe

I don’t think anything u say will change ur parents mind about him, he is their risthedaar, it will just cause arguments between u if u try n defend him.

If ur still sure about marrying him then the best thing u can do is make sure u don’t live close to ur parents as this will help to avoid cause of tension n arguments.

If they r already being so negative before marriage, I would say things r only going to get worse after marriage, think long and carefully about the whole situation.

R u sure u will b able to move over to pakistan?

they are negative about his mother family..this blew out badly and caused arguments between my dad and his dad (brothers). I am quiet confident they will patch up eventually as the real issues isnt between them but it was ignited by a third party.

No i am not 100% sure I can live there, and neither I am 100% he will never change his mind. However, I do want to give him a cance to decide. Fortunatly for us, his has a 15 months work visa that we will transfer into a spouse visa when it expires. We can then see how it goes in Pakistan and decide then. Decisions and situations changes with time and that’s why i dont see the point of figthing with my fiance now on this matter. That’s is what i tried to explain to my dad, that he should see the positive note of things and after all it was his wish that one of his daughter remained linked to his family.