hm i am deeply upset from my father. i know its eid and i am getting married in few weeks so i shouldnt have these feeling towards him but recently at a family friends gathering , a gathering organized for my upcoming wedding, my father disclosed too many personal details of me my fiance and in laws.
i have always disliked my father habbit of keeping our lives as an open book in front of everyone but this time when it happened on my matter and my fiance was dragged in it, i did not like it at all. it hurt me so much 
my engagement period hasnt been easy as my both father and father in law have had a major dispute. they are brothers. the relation between my fiance and me has only become stronger and we have learnt not to interfer or take sides openly. He is a very good person at heart and respects my dad as his own. however he is isnt liked much now by my family for one decision he took. he is from pakistan and will come here for a 15month job contract after wedding. he had no intention to stay here befre getting the job transfer and neither he is planning to stay in the uk after the contract. we will go back to pakistan and that has been agreed between us. it hasnt been easy but i am now past this phase and support his decision and hope for the best.
my family isnt happy about his decision. i understand their point of view. they are concerned for me. i have heard them calling stupid selfish and what not and decided to ignored as it was within the household.
but now my dad told everything to this family friends and in the end all were openly calling him bewakoof , narrow minded or coward because they think he is scared of uk life if he stays here and have no luxury. this deeply sadden me. i couldnt say anything. i couldnt take side of my husband to be as i knew if i opened my mouth i would be in tears and i didnt want to embarass my dad. why did my dad have to say all that..he didnt even spared the details…of our hard phase. it was a personal matter that i shared with him only. i thought my dad would keep izaat of my fiance in front of people. he takes care of my dad more than my brother. for the wedding my fisnce had strictly said no jahez..he said it very clearly in front of his dad and my dad
but my dad wants to do everything single thing in jahez. and here he keeps telling people how much he did so family friends response was that your son in law seems lalachi. it hurt me so much to be sitting there hearing all that. i feel like i am the worst fiance but i cannot afford an argument with my dad now as ill be going away soon. i kept crying all night. i am such a private person who likes to show the positives notes of my life to people only.
in 2 months time my husband will be here, and when we go around these people house, they will all look down on him and knowing some , they might have a go at him. i know this will hurt him. i am 100% sure it will because he is as private as me and we tried hard not to disclose the arguments going on between the two fathers because we think after all brothers will eventually patch up.
i dont know why i wrote this all..maybe to let it all out as i cannot confront my dad or tell my sibling as they think im.nuts for caring that much for a fiance.
i.made dua all might that allah gives my fiance plenty of opportunities in life so i show everyone why i sticked to him despite all the issues. in the end i need a person who respects me and who i can respect.
From now on, seriously think about the person’s personality and their past behavior before sharing personal information - even if that person is a parent. If they have acted a certain way all your life…..they’re going to continue that behavior.