Re: Fat Penguin
So what was yours when dealing with your mother-in-law?
I fail to believe that everyone (married, engaged/in a relationship) out here has a sour relationship with their MIL. There must be some happy stories out there. So what did you do to get past those initial reservations when dealing with her initially. For those of you who are single, how do you plan on getting past that?
I’ll tell you mine. It’s stupid really but I’m someone who likes hugging my family very randomly. I’ll just go up to my mom or sister when they’re in the middle of something, give a nice tight hug and leave as aburptly. When I got engaged my MIL was very standoff-ish. Actually, she didn’t like me much at all. It wasn’t arranged and she didn’t like the fact that her son had gone ‘behind her back’ and picked a girl on his own who wasn’t from the same country. Moreover, her rishta trips from Pakistan were only reciprocated by a NO from my family for 2 years. So what broke the ice was when I once very randomly went and hugged from the back when she was in the middle of a pretty serious conversation with my family after the engagement. She went really stiff on me and I regretted it the minute I did it.
How did you guys do it?
I am single and I guess these thinks cannot be predicted beforehand. We do not know how open, frank, reserved our MIL will be. I am a friendly person and can get along well with anyone… But I am not sure about my future MIL (I do not know where on earth she currently is :P). But I will try to have a friendly relationship with her… this might take some time… Don’t know how to break the ice initially as I think it will depend on the situation which most probably in my case will be an arranged marriage…