Dear guppies,I was for 2-3 years engaged to a cousin. My relation with him had his ups and downs, more downs than ups. A year ago we had big fights and he broke the engagement. Mine and his family were close before since the engagement broke there has been fight between the families Now both families are again in contact with each other. It is for me hard to see him and his family. It makes me a little bit depressive. DO you guys have tips how to deal with this?If I see this guy everything comes back.
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THats why I hate marriages in family..
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Tell your family that you are not interested anymore. In the end it should be your decision which counts. Don't sacrifice you whole life for the sake of family ties which can break for some other trivial reason , like some one can say " I was not given a good seat on engagement day. " or " You daddy did not stand up when I entered the room" etc.
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tell your parents in CLEAR words that you do NOT wish to see this guy or his family and ask them NOT to ever put you in an embarrassing and painful situation. you tell them u MEAN IT! hope yourparents will understand! :)
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just try to avoid him and talk to your parents about it. see wats going on their mind.
i can understand, how you would you feel when you see him
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Yep, type the original post; replace "dear guppies" with "dear parents" and delete the information your parents already know. Send this email to your dad and mom.
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My opinions sort of differ here from others. Considering what had happened was a thing of the past and that your and his family are afterall relatives, I would advise you to let the families be in good terms with each other. If your parents want to meet them, let them. If it bothers you, then you should not meet them or participate very minimally in family events where his family is present. It's still definitely ok for you to talk to your parents about it bc if it's something that hurts you, then obviously it is your parents first and foremost who you need and should talk to. Maybe they are just not aware of the fact that it bothers you. Maybe they will lessen contact once they know it bothers you but I would not recommend that ties with relatives are cut off based on the actions of your fiance. Let go, forgive and move on with your life. Don't participate in things that bother you but let others meet etc. if it causes family relations to be good and peaceful.
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lol, i posted it twice...
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Dear guppies,I was for 2-3 years engaged to a cousin. My relation with him had his ups and downs, more downs than ups. A year ago we had big fights and he broke the engagement. Mine and his family were close before since the engagement broke there has been fight between the families Now both families are again in contact with each other. It is for me hard to see him and his family. It makes me a little bit depressive. DO you guys have tips how to deal with this?If I see this guy everything comes back.
THats why** I hate marriages in family**..
I would suggest you to look for another guy. If a fight can lead towards breakup and families also start fighting. it will not be helping you in future.