My friend was discussing a concern with me recently and i thought to take input from my fellow Guppies.**
My friend belongs to a well established, decent, well off and progressive family. One of her brothers is in an internationally high rated multinational company. Another sibling is a Chartered Account, One is a doctor and parents are both at a considerably well established position. ** For her brother, they all like a girl who they all know personally one or the other way. Everyone is single mindedly accepting and liking the girl for all the traits she possesses - educated, decent, good looking, happy natured, well bonded into family, presentable, religious to an extent, liberal to an extent..overall as described she is a flawless girl from every person's perspective separately and from their own scope of knowing her indifferently. ** The problem seems to be that in the last 1-2 visits they have met her family there seems to be a wide difference between them & the girl, between the family & my friend's family. Her family seems to be not very well off, not very dignified, not very presentablt, not very educated, not into some established careers.** On the other hand, my friend's family is decent and low profile but inwardly are very high ranked people as a family and individually. Their dressing, their house, their talk, their education, their social circle, their lifestyle, their living everything is very much different from the girl's family. They all seem to be confused about it as they extremely like the girl and are doubtful about the family. Although its the girl that will be coming to this family but even then the family and their lifestyle does hold a lot of importance as this interaction will go on for years.
Has any one been through such a dilemma when you liked the girl a lot but were not too convinced about the family. What should one do?
I have known the guy's family for years now. They are a very down to earth and humble family. I think it is everyone's own right to select some one best for their children who their children have to attend to their entire life.
No one is looking for money or the 'Jahez' they will get etc. They are a bit doubtful about their lifestyle - what is the big deal with that? Its their child who has to meet her family every other day, you should think over these things before hand than create problems for any one else and your self.
Many of the guppies here have said soo many times we dont want an FOB, No Desi material etc. What is the big deal if a guy's family has the same concern with he girl's family. They are discussing it with each other and ought to sort out such concerns beforehand. If they find some one way too desi and backward in their lifestyle there is a wide difference, which i believe would be a little concern for many people which does not make them materialistic or shallow for that matter.
I'm sorry maybe my reading comprehension skills are a bit off but when you describe the guys' family by their jobs and they consider the family of their prospective bahu to be "not well off, undignified, unpresentable, and not into the same careers".....how on earth is that being "down to earth" and "humble"?
Its one thing to find someone backwards in their lifestyle or incompatible, its totally different to pick on someone for their parents. shame on her for having an "undignified" family, right? If this girl has a shred of dignity or respect for her family, she would back out now before marrying into such sharks.