Family ties

Ever since i’ve gotten married, 10 months ago, i am being treated like a “stranger” and “outsider” by my

brothers. When i visit them there is barely a hello by them, i say hello and they dont even look at me! They

avoid me all the time, even if i’m around after a months gap :frowning:
The other day the elder one said that im not part of the family anymore and the younger bro said that i have

no rights at “their” home anymore, that my old room is no more mine and that i will never have “shares” in

anything.
My dad paid for an air ticket 4 me and on learning this my brothers lost control over their anger and said

that i should stop being a big burden on papa now that im married. They also constantly say rude things about

my husband and harshly abuse my inlaws.

Now that im pregnant all this hurts alot… yesterday i was like plz stop it and dont give me unneccessary

tension coz im expecting. He said to hell with that, as if i care! They shouted at me coz i said that im not

allowed to lift heavy things and defined me as very useless :crying:

I love my brothers and im here for 10 days more… dont know when i’ll be here after this (they live abroad

and i live in pakistan). They are 16 and 20 years old and just mean 2 me and very often abuse me.

Hmm, my brothers play the innocent in front of my parents. I cant complain to them daily coz my bro (big) got

mega scolded twice and then he took revenge also.

Im just sad that despite me loving them so much - they treat me badly and everything i do (whether phone or

internet even) they say that its not my right and that its their property and say that i have 2 pay 4

everything.

Plz pray that they turn into good boys, so that my parents can be proud of them.

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Don't take them serious. They are immature and only 16 and 20. I am sure they still love you.
Take care of your self and the baby. Since you are close to your mom you can tell her to feel better, but don't complain to her.

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im sorry i dont believe u.

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they love you and i think that ure pregnancy hormones are making u extra sensitive. Cheer up :hug:

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^ That's what I think also.

They haven't been treating you like this when you still lived in the same house did they?
Just don't pay too much attention to them, maybe they can't accept the fact that you left the house for some reason. But inshAllah they will be okay again. Don't take too much tension, think about yourself now. And your brothers still love you, no doubt!

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Very strange. I cant guess why are they behaving like this. If it is the property that they are oogling at and want you not to share it than they should be told that whats your right remains yours, come what may. There are laws governing such issues.
Another thing that came to my mind was, did you marry against the will of family? This might have the answer to their behaviour. Since you have already mentioned that your parents are okay with you than I think this could not be the reason. I am puzzled.

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What kind of a marriage is this?

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Dads arent allowed to do that ?

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Of course they can Sara, who knows what the situation is and what the circumstances are ... snickers, try and ignore your brothers. They are being childish and probably acting out of jealousy. I'm sure they will grow out of it, but don't let it slide if it carries on. Make sure your parents are aware of their behaviour.

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Well luxxxy said otherwise :stuck_out_tongue:

I dunno, I think i’d feel bad asking my dad for anything after i’m married… or maybe not :blush:

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Sara, we don't know what the situation is or why/how she ended up with a plane ticket paid for by her parents. Maybe she asked for it, maybe she didn't. We don't know.

Regardless, her brothers are showing a lot of resentment towards her. If they have an issue with the plane ticket, maybe they should be asking the parents why they got it for her instead of blowing up on a pregnant woman. I'm guessing snickers is the older sister ... so much for respecting your siblings.

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Snickers' story has more holes than a fishing net.

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I know, i’m just going offtopic :stuck_out_tongue:

I don’t know what to say about her brothers. I know five year olds who behave better than this; her brothers are being pricks. :bummer: