when someone is not bad oneself, but the person’s family is in a hardship or a family member is not perfect or is a delibrate mistaker, and you want to help the family, how do you get pass all the family fights?
how did you over come something like this?
share if you would like to and feel comfortable doing so.
best,
Dushwari
Re: family matters : stigma of talking about it
First and foremost, you have to be able to communicate. Communication opens a channels between family members where they can display their difference of opinion or the will to help each other. In my case, though AlhamduLillah, there are no family issues, but whenever something needs discusssing, and if it's pertaining to me, my dad talks to me very openly. When i see bad in my siblings or something i dont like within the family's routine, i speak to either my mom or dad and i express exactly how i feel. This wasn't possible a few years back because in our culture fathers hold a status where you're instantly instilled with fear of speaking before dad from childhood, but i'm happy that as we've gotten older my dad has become more of a.......friend.
If i see one of my siblings doing something which i know for a fact has severe consequences then i just speak to him and let him know the possible results of such behavior/actions/mindset. I've learned from my mistakes and am in a position where i can guide others so they, themselves don't make the mistakes. But i don't control them ofcourse, i just suggest what may lie ahead if the wrong path is adapted.
So overall, communication and a certain amount of trust in each other to a point where you can speak your mind knowing that no one is going to mind what you say, and rather think about it in a positive way.
best,
teggy
Re: family matters : stigma of talking about it
thanks, teggy.
vey wise advice. i mean it.
all the best, :>
Dushwari
Re: family matters : stigma of talking about it
dushwari do u study sociology?