Family inquiry

[ShahreyarKhan]

Re: Family inquiry

i dont understand

why do you have to email/im/fb etc potential rishta guys/girls when you know there might not be any future with them?

why make them part of your life/be part of their life, when there is a 50/50 chance of no future?

@soconfused

asking for khandaan’s contact info of a rishta isn’t something unheard of, is it? This one rishta I got, the boys fam got really worked up about it when my father asked for information about their family and its been almost 5 days and they haven’t responded with anything about their family’s info in Pak…and suddenly the boy–who talked to me everyday–hasn’t emailed/imed/initiated contact since our parents talked and coincidentally isn’t online ever (pretty sure I got blocked). He had added me on fb too whcih I hadn’t accepted and suddenly that request had disappeared…

Red lights are going off in my head because they did allll their research about my family before coming (I found out they had been asking around) but they flipped out when we did, saying that the entire concept is so dated and no one inquires about family anymore. I know my family’s traditional, but we’re not crazy…we think they’re lying about their zaat. I don’t really care or believe in that stuff but what worries me is that if they are covering something like that up, then that means there could be a lot of other lies that we’re being told…

I"m not overreacting am I? I was thinking it could just be that he got busy with school and whatnot but that’s too many coincidences happening at once…