When you see a family member (distant, not immediate), insult another family member on a constant basis (distant, not immediate), and the one being insulted is most likely a mental health patient, except no one has really bothered to get them tested because these distant relatives are jaahils…and if the one doing the insulting is gung-ho about Islam and wears a burqa and watches Aalim Online and then lectures you about wearing a burqa…
Do you:
Tell them off next time you see them insulting the mental health family member?
Not interfere when you see them insulting the mental health family member?
Oh and that the one doing the insulting is refusing to cook appropriately for the one being insulted, and the one being insulted just recently had a heart attack and now has been diagnosed with heart disease, high cholestrol, etc etc. ?
How insensitive and rude. I wouldn't take either options 1 or 2. But I would take aside the burqa'd one and kindly explain that the heart patient cannot handle the stress of her insults. Why has the concept of 'treat others as you would want to be treated' been lost? You can only give advice to someone in this situation especially if they're older than you. Can you talk to someone else that the burqa'd one may listen to? Can someone else help the heart patient? Do these two have to be together in this situation?
Sometimes telling people off makes it worse, they feel belittled or even insulted.
Not interfering in such a case would be heartless and for me it's difficult to stay quiet after seeing something like that.
This is certainly a special case. From my experiences usually the person with the heart and cholesterol problems etc. is the one being aggressive, because of their healthproblems they can become mad easily.
1. Tell them off next time you see them insulting the mental health family member?
yes, I will. But with respect and try to put her in a same situation as a scenario and see what response she has and then make a point out of it!
2. Not interfere when you see them insulting the mental health family member?
As a muslim, I am obligue to stop something that is bad no matter it is seen, heard or said!
I would def. make my enough effort to put a stop to her silliness!
Wow this is really bad…that is just so wrong…well i think it’s hard to ignore this type of situation, so u definately have to interfere…how u go about it is the hard bit…i agree with the others who say that telling them off mite just make it worse…but clearly something needs to be said, just talk to them as calmly as u can and express ur genuine concern and explain that this is sort of treatment towards the sick is unacceptable and outrageous…man, i wud be so angry if someone treated my cousin (who is mentally challenged also) like this!
Wow this is really bad…that is just so wrong…well i think it’s hard to ignore this type of situation, so u definately have to interfere…how u go about it is the hard bit…i agree with the others who say that telling them off mite just make it worse…but clearly something needs to be said, just talk to them as calmly as u can and express ur genuine concern and explain that this is sort of treatment towards the sick is unacceptable and outrageous…man, i wud be so angry if someone treated my cousin (who is mentally challenged also) like this! 