We're not Punjabis.
Its not your fault so why worry?
On a serious note, perhaps the root cause of the repeated issues you post can all be traced to lack of central father figure and imbalance it creates in the household. Its detrimental on many levels and this particular issue should be the least of your worries. Looking outside in, most families dont like mom's wearing pants in the family which seems to be the case with you unfortunately.
Best of luck.