Well the thing is that my hubby is very close to his father and lately I have begun to make a greater effort towards my MIL than FIL and it seems as if hubby doesnt like it much.
I have taken initiative to send flowers for MIL's birthday while nothing special at FIL's. I have started to tell him to call his mother often and he has commented a few time why I didnt speak much to his father - even though I did speak but FIL has started to speak very shortly with me on phone.
Of course I dont want to jeopardize my own marriage. I just dislike the fact that a mother isnt getting the attention that she must get. Afterall she is their mother. No matter what might have happened in the family, a parent is a parent!
I have had so many serious issues with my own parents that if it was solely depended on my own opinion and feelings I might have cut off all contact at a certain period in my life but we are humans and we all make mistakes. The same goes for our parents!We must be able to forgive each other and move on. But FIL has just brainwashed them:(
I know what you mean. Ive seen this happen in my close friends too. The thing is, you have take it slow. Dont do everything at once because they are noticing things changing and obviously not liking it. Its sad to see this happen because this poor woman is probably so lonely right now.
Dont talk to your husband about this directly because in his mind, he might start to associating you with his mother and you dont want that. Instead, do small things here and there. Dont look for results right away...this is a huge gap and will take time to fill.
Take small steps otherwise you will jeopardize your own marriage and your relationship with FIL.