Re: family drama
yeah you are right. That is the approach that we are taking now. First we were very careful about mentioning that we did not talk to my aunt anymore but on Eid we realized that my aunt had told everyone in the masjid we went to (I was away for school so hadn’t really been in a masjid gathering again till Eid) about how WE sued them and kicked them out of THEIR house (LOLS that house belongs to us), we finally decided we were gonna be upfront bout it and if anyone asked, just to tell them what went on. It sucsk though, but it really does make me feel like there’s something wrong with my family. And I wonder if other people think that way too when they’re approaching for a rishta. Like what a headache this family is gonna be and stuff like that.
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Totally agree with Nomi there.
I had a similar problem, probably not as big as yours, or coming from such a prominent member of the family. Nevertheless, this relative was putting me down in front of everyone every time she went to social events. However, this did not hinder anything - I got a very very good rishta, which put a spanner in her works. 
What I’m trying to get at, is that it doesn’t matter if people put you down in front of others - it just shows a bad reflection on the person making those comments - in your case, your uncle. Try not to stress too much about it because nobody can hinder the plans of Allah, and he is the best of planners.
Now cheer up - I’m sure your prince charming won’t want you frowning. 
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Ugh I hate people that do that. This same khala had some rishta aunty call my house to find out if I was engaged because she FULLY suspected that I was getting engaged to a cousin (uh yeah that wasn’t ever happening). And then (my parents dont know because I didn’t know how to tell them…I only found out because the cousin was trying to impress me or take me into confidence because he was intereted in marrying me) that my khala would go around to all my phupos, mumanis, khalas and try to convince them to ask for my rishta…in hindsight that was SO tricky because my parents’ rejection of all the rishtas (it was understood that a) i would never marry into family b) i would never plan to marry in Pak) caused MAJOR rifts with most of my family since they all got butt-hurt. UGHHH.
It gives me hope because God’s always watching and what goes around REALLY does come around.