Globalgal: Have you had a private conversation with your brother about your feelings? Not to complain about the SIL but more from a point of view of if there is something going on with the SIL that’s making her unhappy OR if there is something you had done/said to make her upset?
is it cuz 1) the women are so weak they can’t tolerate the truth 2) so weak that they can’t be without the husband’s support even when wrong? 3) or they are some kind of special makhlook who deserve this type of impartiality?
What’s to be prepared for? Drama in asian families is standard. I would say over 90% of my relatives no longer speak to me and i’m perfectly happy about that. It’s not due to my own detriment either. There is only so many times you’re gonna get backstabbed, and be gossip/lied about before you confront people and tell them how it is. As far as i’m concerned, any bridges I burn let it light the way to people who are worth my time.
My most relatives don’t add anything to my life except to try and make it problematic, so i’ve cut them out. I don’t get involved in any issues with my relatives either, I don’t acknowledge most of them at gatherings and my life has been pretty simple these days.
If I was you. I wouldn’t worry about it. People never change, there are 2 things within us that define how we are around other people. Personality and attitude. Personality being something that never changes and is who you will always be. Attitude is your attitude towards to person in front of you which is ever changing. Since we as humans are complicated people anyway, with the slightest of switches changing our attitude toward someone else there is no point in trying to ponder over the reasons someone is behaving different with you. Just accept it to be what it is, burn the bridge and move on or cling onto something that once was but will never be again.