Family drama/politics

[GlobalGal]

Re: Family drama/politics

@StrangeOne

Doesn’t matter if he loves her. They could be having problems regardless of that like a secret miscarriage, depression, sudden compatibility issues. Unfortunately the in laws are the easiest people to demonise. Someone could also be lying to her about you.

Have you not asked your brother what the issue is? I don’t have siblings but my relationship with my cousins is that I can ask them in private if their spouse goes ballistic on me. If you don’t want him to go behind her back you could frame your question about if she needs space from you or is there anything different she wants from you.

I know a couple of people with whom conversations are like walking on eggshells. I have stopped communicating with them or at least initiating contact. It isn’t worth it.

I want to try to look past it but it looks like she still wants it to keep going with this since her interaction with me the last couple times has been cold and she doesn’t talk to me.

@Decent_6Chora

May be she is more busy now than she used to be? She is working (full time ??), kids are growing perhaps getting more demanding as far as time is concerned? I used to talk to my relatives back home every weekend when I was single or before the birth of our 2 kids. We had lot of time on hand. Now I hardly get a chance to talk to them in months. Does not remotely mean that I don’t love them anymore. Its just not possible to call them and talk to them like I used to earlier.

may be just may be?

yeah I know that they might be busy and it isn’t a big deal since It does get crazy sometimes. They only live a few states away in the US. We’re all in the same country. I mean an Eid mubarak back doesn’t take a lot of syllables does it instead of “yeah okay”. Oh well she’s changed.

@Aaze

I disagree.

The right thing for him to do, if he didn’t want to come in your business, would have been to stay quiet all together and not take anyone’s side. In a perfect scenario he would have talked to his wife afterwards - based on your side of the story here - and cleared the air, which he clearly didn’t do. So while your brother probably is a good guy, he’s not a very good or balanced husband and brother.

I don’t know why desi people feel being given a free card to talk crap to anyone is the first sign of a good spouse, it isn’t. A good spouse is suppose to make you a better person, not a BS head.

Obviously it would take paragraphs to explain what happened but it was the tiniest situation of I was asking her opinion on how the hair stylist would do it if i just wanted to shape the hair, it wasn’t that I was definitely cutting my hair, sis in law kept insisting that it should be cut and that it is not a big deal, I like my hair long and didn’t want it cut since it took months for me to get it to this length, she’s just become really controlling and I was just asking, when she insisted like the 6th time and the hair stylist was getting ready to cut it, I felt like i was being cornered by her even if I didn’t even want it cut in the first place. i blurted out “i’m going to get naraz if she does cut it” since everything else i was saying wasn’t working to make them stop. That’s what set her off into screaming at me me in front of my dad and brother.

When I said that my brother came to her defense, I mean he inferred that I should’ve gotten it cut. I’m not really into being forced to doing something I really don’t want to do. It was the stupidest thing in the world and I don’t know why it got blown outta proportion into her pointing and screaming at me about wasting her time when I asked her why she was getting so angry about it. The hair stylist lived right below the building we were staying at so it wasn’t like 5 hour drive there.