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August 30, 2016, 1:38pm
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Re: Family didn’t attend
^^ you guys are the neutral party I told this story to, to see if maybe I was over reacting …
And yes, I have done just that, it still hurts, but I stopped making an effort because no one seems to care, so there’s no need for me to.
Yesterday I went to see my mom, she recently had a really bad fall and scared my dad and I alot by it. Her own brother (my mammu) who lives about 10 min away from my mom, didn’t bother to see her, he called though, so good for him I guess, he did his due diligence in his eyes. But in my eyes, he should have come over to see his sister.
I got mad naturally, and what did my mom say? “I raised my brothers (she’s the eldest), I love my family, so if I am not doing any giley shikwey, why are you? They are busy in their lives.” And I said, cuz thats not right, they are “family” right? they are supposed to be there for you when you need them. and if they cant be there for YOU, my mother, then who the hell are they to me? I won’t keep relations with them
We aren’t neutral party. We only know your side of the story. Be mad at them if you want to be but don’t poison your mother against them. If she is willing to ignore the bad stuff let her. Maintaining ties of kinship is important.