(Ok, breadwinner men, I’m not talking about you - we all know how much your lives suck).
I’m talking about like
parents and siblings.
Especially if you’re young and school. Anyone in that situation? How are you making it work?
We had some problems back when I was in college and when I graduated, I had the distinct fear that I can’t continue with any education and that I need to quit and do some work for a while, so if things got any worse, maybe my income might help a little bit.
So, I’ve kind of gone through the FEAR of having to take care of my parents, but thankfully things worked out, and my income was never needed, and with much assurances, I was able to go back to school. But throughout grad school, I always feared “What if” I was to lose my Dad. Then my mom and I and my sister would be up the creek without a paddle.
I was always fearful I’d have to drop out of school, get a job, and support the family, and that too with a debt from education.
there was a period during college and early career when there were some family situations and needs. dropped out of bschool and worked fulltime for a bit to help, reduce expenses etc, my bros did the same.
When Allah puts you in a difficult situation he gives you the strength & courage to deal with it.
I believe that the strength comes from the love you have for your family. Love can make you do many things that you will not otherwise do. I knew someone who back in 1960's was abandoned by her husband because he did 2nd marriage in order to settle abroad and left his wife and 3 children. The wife did not go back to her parents. She took up a job in hospital which also provided her a very small place to live. She not only provided for all the needs of her children , she also got them educated & married them off. But she did not ask anyone for help. Imagine a woman in 1960's that too in Pakistan , raising three children on her own.
Life is ever changing. Neither the good days nor the bad days stays , they come and they go.
I manage.Its stressing but eventually you manage.
i just saw X2’s post and it disappeared