A lot of ppl say ‘u will never be happy marrying a guy/girl without ur parents being happy as well’ but they don’t mention the flipside where so many kids marry a partner they didn’t really like just to keep their parents happy and are now stuck in ‘dead’ or sham marriages and really unhappy.. in our culture unfortunately ppl tend to put too much emphasis on what’s on the surface, as long as the couple are still together that’s all that counts.. also those marriages that went ahead where the girl and guy got together and families weren’t happy then split up, a lot of the time they would have survived if it weren’t for the inlaws stirring things..
One of my uncles years ago married his girlfriend who he’d been living with for a while and for this reason my grandma took an instant dislike to her, saying she had no morals etc and wasn’t ‘wife material’, she did literally everything she could to try and split them up after they married inc cutting him off completely, not allowing him to speak to my other uncles and aunties.. In the end they did end up divorcing, the strain got too much..