Sorry I am having a monday morning moan, I suppose pregnancy hormones don’t help.
Basically we have a large family and every so often, its either a kuthum, or birthday, so we have a lot of gatherings, and a lot of *****iness also goes on, who’s wearing what, who’s pregnant, etc etc
How does one cope with this?!!! I really can’t stand it. I have to go as it is my in-laws but I cant stand some of the people and their horrible personalities, I try to bite my tongue and think get through this, but its tough, sorry if i aint making sense, but other girls will know exactly what i am talking about!
If you answer someone back then you get classed as being cheeky and not having respect for in-laws, if yous tay quiet you are being walked over. what is a person meant to do!!!
mrsshy, when family gets together, they will share all the news of other family members as a matter of course. What else is there to talk about lol! You could start conversations about world events or politics if those topics interest you but mostly relatives and friends like to talk about "whats going on" when they get together.
No you don't get what I am saying. Of course we are going to discuss family events but what I mean is there is always 2 or 3 women from the family that deliberately sit there, stirring things like a wicked witch. Or has a smart comment to make about someone or something.
I have been in such situations and I can advise the best thing is to KEEP QUIET because some responses can leave people VERY OFFENDED and then everything spirals abit out of proportion. It's not worth the aggro.
If you can, then walk away from the stirrers and leave them to their own devices, bcos you can't put them right, if you do try they will make it worse for you and if u r pregnant you DON'T NEED THE STRESS.
If you can, try to leave early, just say you are not feeling well or something.
You will always find people like that in such gatherings/most families.
Socialise with the people who you get along with. Let those who gossip do so. Keep it civil with them and when they make comments just pretend it hasn't affected you. I agree with Rupay. Confrontations are definitely not worth the hassle. It starts off with a petty comment and can end up as a family feud.
