Falling out of Love.....

[redvelvet]

Re: Falling out of Love…

@GlobalGal

but there was no compromise from his side ever, there were many incidences where his parents screamed at you in front of others to the point where you couldn’t control your tears
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If you say that he has “never” been somebody you could depend upon emotionally…that’s a rather strong statement. And it begs the question…what did you see in him in the first place then if he’s this difficult to live with? At the same time…I don’t think it’s healthy for one to be excessively emotionally dependent upon another. But if basic respect was never there to begin with…then why marry him at all?** There are two sides to a story and based on what you’re telling us, this guy sounds messed up. But…some might also wonder…did the girl have a lack of confidence/low self-esteem or did she not respect her own self enough to realize that this guy does not respect her? Did she feel that this guy (in a weird way) filled some void in her life? If she had a relationship with him before marriage…and if he was successfully able to manipulate her into coming back to him every time…even after each time he treated her like dirt…are her feelings more a result of a possible low self-esteem? In that case…it might not have been “love” to begin with. And “love” is hard to define and varies in meaning from person to person.

all those tough times hating and then wanting to work it out eventually he hurts you enough that you become completely numb to him and you can’t go back to loving or even liking him enough to look at his face…something in your mind has totally blocked him out

If you don’t even like him…and can’t stand the sight of him…and if you have been feeling this way for a long time…then what’s the point of even staying married? If this individual, instead of improving, is only getting worse, and the marriage is overall a dysfunctional one, then perhaps a separation needs to be considered. And I say “considered” because we don’t have all the details and there are two sides to a story…and also because divorce carries quite the stigma for desi women…and in the event that children are involved (as asked above)…it complicates things as their well-being also needs to factored into any decisions that are taken.

is it possible to fall out of love or feel total indifference for somebody?

Relationships evolve…passion can wane. People (their moods) and relationships don’t stay in a constant state. It requires MUTUAL effort to keep a relationship going and the spark alive. But indifference (it is said) is worse than hatred…because at least hatred involves some emotion.