say you thought you were in love with the man you married or are in a relationship with but there was no compromise from his side ever, there were many incidences where his parents screamed at you in front of others to the point where you couldn’t control your tears
it was hate and love back and forth and he has never been somebody you could depend on emotionally
all those tough times hating and then wanting to work it out eventually he hurts you enough that you become completely numb to him and you can’t go back to loving or even liking him enough to look at his face…something in your mind has totally blocked him out
is it possible to fall out of love or feel total indifference for somebody?
how exactly does a woman know when the man is in love with her? can a man give me the answer.....i haven't been around too many men in that way so i have no clue
how exactly does a woman know when the man is in love with her? can a man give me the answer.....i haven't been around too many men in that way so i have no clue
Watching his actions and not his words, he can tell you all he wants how much he loves you but if his actions don't justify those words then he simply isnt in love, not as much as he claims to at least. When he tends to treat you like a queen/princess, when he never belittles you, when he understands you as much as you understand yourself, when all of your family, friends respect him, when he looks at you only to make you melt and in return that is exactly what you want to do, when you can easily tell and not guess by the look in his eyes that he indeed is in love with you.
You were in love with what you wanted him to be. Then you saw what he really was. Its common when someone pays attention to you and makes you feel good about yourself, to conveniently ignore signs, either subtle or obvious, of his negative points.
So yeah its possible to be indifferent to someone whom you loved (or thought you did). If you have had a reasonable amount of good times together, then its difficult to be indifferent, but still possible.
Love dosnt happen once in your life only so its not as divinve as karan johar says it is!
you can fall in and out of love (based on feelings, situations, conditions) love is conditional!
Love is so freaking O v e r R a t e d
p.s: no i havnt fought wid my guy, we are still very much together :D above are just brutally honest views!
1: There is a slight possibility for love to happen just once for a few. I for one fell in love with a girl for the 1st time when I was 24 and if that would have continued it most certainly would have been the 1st and the last time for me.
2: Real love is supposed to be unconditional, with no strings attached.
3: Probably yes, possibly not. Depends on what part of it one considers it to be overrated really.
The above are just personal preferences and certain experiences really. I respect your opinions regardless. :-)
On Topic: Yes, falling out of love is very much possible. At the same time one i also expected to try their very best to make it work, the harder the quest to solution, the fruitful the result. Happiness and pain is part of life/love and technically every relationship has to go through it too. Apparently the stuff you have mentioned is quiet hurtful and I completely feel for you, but I just cant really base my opinion on mere few words and have my share by helping to make or break a relationship. Relationships prior marriage are simply like glass houses, takes ages to build but seconds to break.
I can however suggest for the 2 of you to sit down and discuss everything in absolute detail and mutually try your level best to help overcome your issues. May Allah SWT be with you.
My apologies if the stuff I said was not helpful enough.
say you thought you were in love with the man you married or are in a relationship with but there was no compromise from his side ever, there were many incidences where his parents screamed at you in front of others to the point where you couldn't control your tears
it was hate and love back and forth and he has never been somebody you could depend on emotionally
all those tough times hating and then wanting to work it out eventually he hurts you enough that you become completely numb to him and you can't go back to loving or even liking him enough to look at his face........something in your mind has totally blocked him out
is it possible to fall out of love or feel total indifference for somebody?
Ummm....even IF you were still in love with the man in this situation, why would you want to spend your life with someone who doesn't respect you, allows his parents to "scream" at your in public, and is not willing to compromise? Why would you want to raise chidren with a man like this (assuming you don't have children already)?
Relationships/marriages are much more that just being "in love". There must be trust, MUTUAL respect, and MUTUAL compromise.
Back to your original Q: Yes, it's possible to fall out of love. As someone already wrote, many time people fall "in love" with what they imagine the person to be. When reality hits, that's when love goes bye-bye.
Thanks all for replies, i need time to think about what all have said, some really did make a lot of sense. hard times and some tough decisions to make....you were all sweet to respond
but there was no compromise from his side ever, there were many incidences where his parents screamed at you in front of others to the point where you couldn't control your tears
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If you say that he has "never" been somebody you could depend upon emotionally.........that's a rather strong statement. And it begs the question....what did you see in him in the first place then if he's this difficult to live with? At the same time...I don't think it's healthy for one to be excessively emotionally dependent upon another. But if basic respect was never there to begin with.......then why marry him at all?** There are two sides to a story and based on what you're telling us, this guy sounds messed up. But.....some might also wonder.........did the girl have a lack of confidence/low self-esteem or did she not respect her own self enough to realize that this guy does not respect her?Did she feel that this guy (in a weird way) filled some void in her life? If she had a relationship with him before marriage......and if he was successfully able to manipulate her into coming back to him every time......even after each time he treated her like dirt..........are her feelings more a result of a possible low self-esteem? In that case...it might not have been "love" to begin with. And "love" is hard to define and varies in meaning from person to person.
all those tough times hating and then wanting to work it out eventually he hurts you enough that you become completely numb to him and you can't go back to loving or even liking him enough to look at his face........something in your mind has totally blocked him out
If you don't even like him.....and can't stand the sight of him........and if you have been feeling this way for a long time.....then what's the point of even staying married? If this individual, instead of improving, is only getting worse, and the marriage is overall a dysfunctional one, then perhaps a separation needs to be considered. And I say "considered" because we don't have all the details and there are two sides to a story..........and also because divorce carries quite the stigma for desi women......and in the event that children are involved (as asked above).....it complicates things as their well-being also needs to factored into any decisions that are taken.
is it possible to fall out of love or feel total indifference for somebody?
Relationships evolve.....passion can wane. People (their moods) and relationships don't stay in a constant state. It requires MUTUAL effort to keep a relationship going and the spark alive. But indifference (it is said) is worse than hatred.......because at least hatred involves some emotion.
what compromises hasnt he made?
also his parents screamed at you, why? where was he? what did you do....if his parents are like this, whats he likes, thats the question?