How/ When/ Why do people fall out of love?
can it actually happen???
how do u deal with it if some one you love madly…and for many years…falls out of love with you.
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when they decide to jump out of the window just to get away from you cos your so possessive about them :D
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^nahhhhh
love comes after we have passed those stages.
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Im sure it can happen T...but 'how' is a complex question. It depends on your relationship, how it has matured, what went wrong, etc.
If you fight a lot, grew apart, became different people, met someone else, etc. you can fall out of love.
But I think (married people correct me if Im wrong) marriage is something you have to kind of keep alive...it doesnt stay alive if you let it be. Im sure marriage takes a lot of effort and work to keep it going otherwise couples will fall out of love.
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O.K, can people PLEASE share their experiences, other peoples experiences they know of where a couple who was once deeply in love, broke up because one of them fell 'out' of love with the other...
i guess it would happen to a couple who fell in love at the age of 17 and five years later the guy falls out of love.
so how is the girl (yes, you can all assume it's me) supposed to get over this?
and for those who read the earlier thread opened by me, yes it's the same couple, the guy told the girl today (via her best friend) that he's fallen out of love with her.
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I think love is the feeling of deep affection and loyalty that is still there after the lust/heady romance/infatuation wears off. It's so complex, that the word love itself is hard to define for most people. Sometimes what we think is love could just be a strong infatuation.
There are many reasons why someone might fall out love. In a committed relationship such as a marriage, both partners have to make the effort to keep the relationship alive throughout the years. Falling out of love can take place when the couple is not connecting with each other on various levels be it emotional, romantic, intellectual, what have you.
And it's important to allow yourself and your partner some time apart from each other in a relationship. It gives a chance for u to develop urself and the other person to miss you. I hope this helps.....because its unclear what type of relationship you're in and what problems you're encountering. If you're more clear, then we can try to help you better. Best wishes:)
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How exactly can people fall out of love?? i mean...they've loved this person forever and then, one day, they realize they've fallen out of love with them?
How can the girl get over this??? She's loved this guy for the past five years...how is she supposed to get over it and move on?
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Hey RV: thanks for your reply, the couple had a college/uni romance, weren't engaged or married but the girl did want to marry him...she'd pictured her whole life with him.
they had issues...well, they weren't very compatible, argued often. about silly things. but argued none the less. their highs were real high and lows were really low.
i think, i know...the girl was in love (esp. if one goes by you definition) i guess the guy wasn't.
So, what can the girl do to move on? She was holding on to this last bit of hope...that he still loved her and may change his mind later on, she NEVER thought he'd stop loving her or fall out of love with her. I guess where the girl had the deep sense of affection and loyalty, the guy clearly didn't...his was deep infatuation...
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She needs to distract herself with other things...work, activities, socialize more, take a course, start her MBA, etc. Getting over a relationship is not easy and some parts of it - the grief, the feeling of emptiness, the void - are things you have to go through. Its natural and there is no way to avoid it...part of the healing process.
She cannot jump into another relationship right now, that is out of the question. Otherwise, she will punish the next person in her life for what happened to her, unknowingly.
She needs to distract herself with other things...work, activities, socialize more, take a course, start her MBA, etc. Getting over a relationship is not easy and some parts of it - the grief, the feeling of emptiness, the void - are things you have to go through. Its natural and there is no way to avoid it...part of the healing process.
She cannot jump into another relationship right now, that is out of the question. Otherwise, she will punish the next person in her life for what happened to her, unknowingly.
I totally agree with Bon. The aching emptiness and void-like feeling are challenging to get through when you are trying to get over someone. Keeping yourself busy, developing yourself as person, and getting to know yourself as an individual by pursuing your interests....does provide not only healing but confidence as well:)
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there was this guy iwas very much infatuated, but his arrogant stern behaviour made him less captivating and dull in side. he was an ego maniac who would hurt any1 to the extent to make them take severe steps. thank god i realised that at a very early stage and moved on.
the best part was i left no clues
summary is that attitude matters to a great extent.