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how do you know all this when you arent married, ashy? 
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Some people (including my mom) think that I am aqalmand 
Bas kabhi gharoor nahi kia 
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**We cannot fall in love until we start spending days and nights with the person, be there for him/ her in tough times, share problems together, have common aims in life and work together to achieve those. Thus IMHO we can only fall in love after we get married.
**Before marriage, we can LIKE a person depending on the physical attributes and the emotional and mental compatibility we find to be present with them.
How do you know how others can and can't fall in love??
People get angry, sad, upset at different rates and in different ways, why wouldn't it be the same when it comes to falling in love?
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Plz plz plz sb log meri bt deyan se suno q k ye bt ap ko kisi guru kisi ustad kisi heer kisi ranjhy se nei pta lgni!
to bt ye hy seriously
never try to mix up love and happy married life. there is a hell difference between two. A true love with some one before marriage can never guarantee a happy life after marriage even if u are committed to deliver 100% of ur self to the wishes of ur love but happy life after marriage is some thing else. It is in no way related to love. Love is blind thats true when u like and love some one u dont have any concerns towards her / his family structure, traditions, financial status, religious and social values. U love her / him just because u love. No other logic can be given for our love to some one. But a happy married life includes all those recepies I mentioned before. In conclusion
Love just means give give and give
marriage on the other hand has win win strategy
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How do you know how others can and can't fall in love??
People get angry, sad, upset at different rates and in different ways, why wouldn't it be the same when it comes to falling in love?
I really don't think anyone can 'fall' in love until they start living with each other (i.e. till after marriage). We can say they can LIKE each other before marriage and yes, you are RIGHT. Some can like the other person instantly, some can like after many years and some never.
I didn't say how others CAN or CAN'T fall in love. I just said falling in love usually happens after marriage. Before marriage, it shouldn't be called LOVE. Its liking, attraction, infatuation etc. This feeling can sometimes be termed as love since this can be a strong feeling which can make a couple fight with their parents etc to marry each other. Once they get married to each other and have to start spending days and nights with each other, sshare orrows and joys, health and sickness etc with each other, and still want to continue to be with each other, it should then be called LOVE.
I am talking about our society only where live-in relationships are not common and a couple gets to live together only after marriage.
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aasi bongi theory mein nay aaj tak nahi suni
Plz plz plz sb log meri bt deyan se suno q k ye bt ap ko kisi guru kisi ustad kisi heer kisi ranjhy se nei pta lgni!
to bt ye hy seriously
never try to mix up love and happy married life. there is a hell difference between two. A true love with some one before marriage can never guarantee a happy life after marriage even if u are committed to deliver 100% of ur self to the wishes of ur love but happy life after marriage is some thing else. It is in no way related to love. Love is blind thats true when u like and love some one u dont have any concerns towards her / his family structure, traditions, financial status, religious and social values. U love her / him just because u love. No other logic can be given for our love to some one. But a happy married life includes all those recepies I mentioned before. In conclusion Love just means give give and give marriage on the other hand has win win strategy
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A true love with some one before marriage can never guarantee a happy life after marriage even if u are committed to deliver 100% of ur self to the wishes of ur love but happy life after marriage is some thing else.
Open your eyes..
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its all in your head. When i am not working, every single pretty girl makes me think i am her romeo :(
P.S:
Thank God she doesn't think herself as juliet otherwise we both have been dead by now!
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aasi bongi theory mein nay aaj tak nahi suni
Exactly ma pehlay e keha tha ye bt ap ko kisi guru, ustad, heer ranjhay se pta nei lgni. Its a fact. u will come to know when u get older and practically deal life very deeply.
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^ I don't agree arain munda.
Although I very strongly agree that you cannot truly love a person until you are married to him/her and until you start spending your life with him/ her, prior understanding and getting to know process can help you know many things about a person which can make the married life easier and happy. If you already know a person and know how his behaviour, nature, character and personality is, it will be easier for you since you won't have a fear of unknown after the shaadi and this will definitely improve the chances of a happy married life.
There is some importance of knowing a person before shaadi in Islam also and therefore Islam says to interact with the person before shaadi (in the presence of a chaperone though) to get to know them and then to decide whether to marry the person or not.
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^ I don't agree arain munda.
Although I very strongly agree that you cannot truly love a person until you are married to him/her and until you start spending your life with him/ her, prior understanding and getting to know process can help you know many things about a person which can make the married life easier and happy. If you already know a person and know how his behaviour, nature, character and personality is, it will be easier for you since you won't have a fear of unknown after the shaadi and this will definitely improve the chances of a happy married life.
There is some importance of knowing a person before shaadi in Islam also and therefore Islam says to interact with the person before shaadi (in the presence of a chaperone though) to get to know them and then to decide whether to marry the person or not.
Sister just think about practically whether u have seen a single male / female who presented him / her self exactly as he / she is in normal life. I mentioned that love before marriage cant guarantee a successful life after marriage is based on above mentioned fact. A person may love some one else just because of his / her beauty, hairs, talkings etc etc but after marriage u r assessed 24 by ur spouse. I think I have not delivered the message properly as in my mind but u and other will understand what I mean.
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Sister just think about practically whether u have seen a single male / female who presented him / her self exactly as he / she is in normal life. I mentioned that love before marriage cant guarantee a successful life after marriage is based on above mentioned fact. A person may love some one else just because of his / her beauty, hairs, talkings etc etc but after marriage u r assessed 24 by ur spouse. I think I have not delivered the message properly as in my mind but u and other will understand what I mean.
When a girl/ guy study together in university, work together etc. they do get to know each other 8-9 hours daily. They can understand how good or bad a person is. If they decide to marry each other, their prior knowledge of each other can help them lead an easier married life as compared to when they married a total stranger. I agree, you got a know a person 100% only when you live with them. But there can be circumstances when you can get to know a person at least 50-60% even without living with them (like studying together, working together, cousins living in joint family etc).
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Exactly! It’s not like “aunties” didn’t have a life prior to having kids
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When a girl/ guy study together in university, work together etc. they do get to know each other 8-9 hours daily. They can understand how good or bad a person is. If they decide to marry each other, their prior knowledge of each other can help them lead an easier married life as compared to when they married a total stranger. I agree, you got a know a person 100% only when you live with them. But there can be circumstances when you can get to know a person at least 50-60% even without living with them (like studying together, working together, cousins living in joint family etc).
U r right some how that couple working have a better chance to know each other but its not 50-60 % its not more than 10-15% even if they work for 8 hours together. U r missing a great gap here. During job or university u get to know his/her dealings with u or other coleagues only. U dont know the family dealing of that person this part deals a lot in ur happy married life.
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U r right some how that couple working have a better chance to know each other but its not 50-60 % its not more than 10-15% even if they work for 8 hours together. U r missing a great gap here. During job or university u get to know his/her dealings with u or other coleagues only. U dont know the family dealing of that person this part deals a lot in ur happy married life.
I again disgaree. We do get to know family dealings of that person also if we work/ study together.
I know about all my colleagues how they behave with their parents, sisters and even friends. I have even met few of my colleagues' family. If you spend the whole day with someone and are friends/ acquitances, you do get to know about most part of their lives including their families. It all depends on how good or bad working relationships do you have with the other person which can sometimes change into the personal relationship and if this leads to marriage, they are more happier/ easier than to marry someone who is 100% stranger about whom you know nothing.
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I again disgaree. We do get to know family dealings of that person also if we work/ study together.
I know about all my colleagues how they behave with their parents, sisters and even friends. I have even met few of my colleagues' family. If you spend the whole day with someone and are friends/ acquitances, you do get to know about most part of their lives including their families. It all depends on how good or bad working relationships do you have with the other person which can sometimes change into the personal relationship and if this leads to marriage, they are more happier/ easier than to marry someone who is 100% stranger about whom you know nothing.
I dont know where do u live. but where I live and work I never noticed a male / female visiting his / her opposite sex family members. and I dont live in a far away land I live in a very big city of piara Pakistan.