falling in love

[stoppit]

Re: falling in love

@Nisha25

i think arranged marriage is safer. with it the elders are involved and get along well and they make sure all the checkboxes are ticked when it comes to compatibility and family background

with dating there’s a risk that one might fall in love and the other isn’t at all interested. it leads to heartache for one. when it comes to “love” marriage you rarely check family background and all the other important factors that make a marriage work. we just put all the emphasis on loooooooooooove and forget about everything else

what exactly does it feel like when somebody loves you, or how does that person treat you? i have no clue but caring and respect can develop with arranged marriage too which i think are more important than this fictitious ‘love’ which is something that hollywood/bollywood/lollywood created nothing more.

I think it’s a bit naive to think an arranged marriage is “safer”.

Also, from what I have seen, parents actually often neglect to do their research properly in terms of family background. And compatibility with the actual potential spouse is often overlooked. Most parents become so preoccupied in just wanting to marry their child, they miss a lot of stuff.

Both can work if you go about it the right way.