Personally believe its all about perception and what you want to believe. How can a woman or a man who has only known one individual truly know they are the best for each other and that they are truly in love. You can’t. But to fall within the stereotypical boundaries of how society, bollywood and their friends define a relationship they believe they are in fact in love. Now this is not to say people do not find true love in arranged marriages. They do and its equally possible you find your love while dating. But additionally you do not love everybody you date. Ow. My brain hurts.]
Girls in Pakistani society are brainwashed to believe their marriage is their end all and be all of existence. That they have to have this fairytale environment when it comes to love and a married life. That would also explain in my opinion the increasing number of divorce in Pakistan due to unhealthy and unnatural expectations of married life.
In an arranged marriage where you have no contact with him or her how can you fall in love. But this is not gonna happen over the 4 or 5 months of the engagement period. That is just a woman or a man forcing themselves to conform to societal stereotypes of what they wish their marriage to be. That is why I find it every odd on this forum when girls post they have been engaged for 2 months but are already head over heels in love with their partners. This is not the US or EU where you get engaged and spend hours dating, going out and getting to know each other. It is basically romanticized version of what they wish it would be.