Re: Falling for the wrong person
When I see the complexities and problems involved with arranged rishta settings, I really think there is no wrong in choosing a person on our own. When girls like me are rejected by guys’ parents on mere reasons like caste and when we get to know that their sons usually don’t have any problems with these issues, it would be great if a Pakistani girl gets a proposal from her own circle. Dating just for the purpose of fun is not good. But if a girl is marriagable and a decent guy approaches her, there is no harm in considering if her family allows her to. A lot of desi guys consider their female friends, class fellows and colleagues when they start thinking about marriage. Why would you doubt the character the Pakistani girls if someone had approached them for marriage purpose? This shows that they had been good enough that guys considered them for marriage and I think guys do look for sharafat when they consider any girl and they wouldn’t approach any girl if they think she is not ‘shareef’. I guess guys have this instinct and they can identify the sharafat in girl by judging how she is conducting herself in front of him and others. So don’t try to assasinate the character of Pakistani girls who got proposals on their own and married someone they knew.