bonding with a special person, specifically a spouse, must be a great feeling that some people can only look forward to, in their life time.
how might a faithful, & god fearing individual, find strength from the source of a true companion?
in such a relationship, how is one enabled to do examplary works that will be for the benefit of all humanity?
any thoughts?
dushi
Re: faith, purpose of marriage & altruism
Assalam Alaikom wa rachmatullah
Marriage is not a naturally ‘happy’ state. It involves at the very least 2 people who must learn to love, respect honour and work together to both benefit self and spouse. There is reward in each small thing each one does within that marriage.
All of mankind benefits if it is strived within…because it in itself is a positive portrayal. It can be incredibly difficult though because regardless of your own input it still takes at least 2!..
It is a long journey and requires a lot of patience, faith (only Allah knows how many times He has been called upon…) and a special regard for the feelings, needs and desires of your spouse. A wonderful thing if you both strive.
Marriage can be fulfilling, rewarding and if both partners give room to grow (and respect) …rich and nourishing. In reality setting up your needs into a ‘contract’ of marriage helps…not financial so much as conduct towards each other, agreement about how you will resolve problems in advance, and also how involved you want/don’t want to be in decision making process.
No-one is a mind reader either so keep communication an important part of your life. Remain honest and you should avoid difficulties…and learn to sometimes just ‘let it go’… words spoken can never be taken back, so try, if possible to consider what you hope to achieve when you have things to say?
Forgive yourself and each other for the mistakes you invariably will make…and never feel to slow to say you are sorry!
Treat your spouse with the levels of understanding, love and respect you want for yourself.
Try to smile and laugh together…not ‘at’ eacdh other.
Be supportive of each other. Don’t backbite either each other or each others families…
But your question still has lots to answer…
and these are just my humble thoughts:blush: