Whatever I want to do, I just get skeptical remarks or looks. It seems as if my mother has no faith in me to do the right thing or be smart or anything. Everyone calls me retarded or stupid or whatever for something minor as joining a gym. No one takes me seriously, I’m just a big fking joke. Either I’m too damn sensitive or everyone else is an asshole and of course no one else is wrong, its my problem for taking things too seriously. Sometimes I feel as if I don’t have anyone supporting me or backing me on anything I want to do.
Sara, if you think you have what it takes to join and be regular at the gym (or whatever else it is that you want to do), then do so. This should provide you with an opportunity to prove others wrong.
People are skeptical of me for a whole bunch of things I do. The only way you can change their negative thinking is by proving them wrong.
Many a times you won't have anyone supporting you. Have faith in Allah (SWT), make plenty of duaa and do whatever it is that you have to. Hopefully, you'll come out successful. Often it is also good not to go around telling others about your problems. Not only would you get 0% support in return, but people would often use it against you.
Sadiyah I dont post my problems often, at least I don't think I do.
I'm just so sick of the negativity. And then everyone tells me I'm too negative and pessimistic and I need to stop putting myself down etc etc but it's hard. Being told the same BS over and over since you were a kid kinda takes its toll on you...
Yeah telling her mother that she is an asshole should really do the trick.
Sara--try n evaluate yourself a bit. We arent perfect or even close to it. I've seen close friends cut down on their yapping and keeping to themselves -- this eventually helping them in the long run. A person bringing about changes in his/her lifestyle (ie: mouthing back to parents, having a care-free attitude toward family issues, etc) should not really expect their family's behavior to change within hours. It may take time but by the time you've brought upon a positive change, you'll feel good and so will others who interact with you on a daily basis.
PS-- Im not implying that you are rude as such -- just giving a tip. :)
I thought you were referring to people offline not supporting you or backing you enough? I wasn't referring to you posting your problems on GS.
Work on things/areas you feel you need to improve in. Just be persistent in whatever it is that you do and hopefully others will change their opinions about you, insha'Allah.
Also, you shouldn't really worry too much about what others have to say. Just be confident in whatever it is that you do, so long as you know it's good/right. Getting others to like/appreciate you could literally drive you mental.
Oh Okay when you said it's not a good idea telling everyone your problems, I thought you meant posting. I haven't really said anything to anyone, just 1 person tho they didnt' do anything. I felt bad for taking my anger out on em. :(
I'm going to try to be confident and tell everyone to bug off... easier said than done..
Sara...who cares what other ppl say...do what you want!!!! :) Plus I think when you ask someone a question or want their suggestion ppl just give you their input based on their experiences.... it might be not what you were looking for but it doesn't mean their putting you down :) Cheer up :)