how common is it for a guy thats fair to marry a girl thats tan
i dont see this trend much
sometimes the girl is way prettier than the guy, i understand persoanlity other aspects are important.however this is only a question because i feel with the girl when it comes to looks people are less forgiving and usually begin with skin color, if she ticks that then they move on.
tbh I actually dont know of any couples where the girl is darker than the guy.
is this somewhat common?
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If you are just asking about young Pakistani couples then I can think of 5 couples on top of my head that I know…It is just sad that this is even a thing but you can’t ignore that yea, most guys or their families want a gori chitti bahu despite there being plethora of gorgeous and accomplished girls in every shade.
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no, have seen numerous couples where the skin color of the girl is darker then the guy. and yes Pakistani couples.
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Basically all the love marriages in my family. My family is on the fair side and when the mothers choose their son’s wives they choose someone the same colour but when the guys go for the girls of their choice the girl is usually darker. Or visa versa if the girl chooses. Though even in the arranged ones I see it a lot too. Like all my SILs are married to guys fairer than them. But I know this is not as common as the rest of Pakistan. Colourism runs rampant in my family too so it’s really interesting to see everything is evolving against that.
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When its the cupid that hits a couple , color doesnt matter what so ever !
When its the mommies searching for DIL’s . They go berserk over skin color and height 
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I think the trend now is for people to marry others that add value to their life. If they are looking for someone lighter and that gets them points from their family/friends and it works for them then they do it. If they are looking for a wife that is more career oriented and if she’s a little darker they’ll go ahead with it. It really comes down to making it work and how complimentary the other person is. I know in the West it’s more like this and with my personal experiences, this is what I have seen.
Asking for colour is something that happens when you go through the arranged route but sometimes when they hear more about you this can be overlooked to some extent.
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Sometimes I test the values of my children by asking them random questions, while driving my 14 yr old to practice I asked him what color girl he would like to marry, black, white or brown and he told me that," Dad I am not a man of color." that made me proud of my parenting.
People value what they have been raised to value and valuing complexion would be a horrible value, I have seen parents treat gora baacha better than kala baacha.
PS a warm bed and coming home to someone who cares is a great value, humans aren’t logical beings.
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That’s awesome. Teaching children about racial equality is so important! I agree, colour is horrible to value but we can only*** educate***, not enforce. People will still do, what they have been programmed to believe.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QRZPw-9sJtQ
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Older people are more racists, the black girl in my boys group is the one who is the most sought after. She was my boys best friends gf and repeatedly cheated on him. I guess many desis have yet to get with the times.
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Awesome response . You must be so proud of him :k:
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Thank you,
We subscribe to humanism and allow children to challenge and question us. when I see that my children have friends in all races and religion and sexual orientation that makes me happy. I also discuss their friends problems with them, most of these kids hang at our home on a regular basis. Some very complicated stuff comes up.
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I’m a product of such a marriage, though both my parents are light skinned. It’s just that my dad’s like super light skin. My dad’s younger brother is also super light skin and his wife is pretty brown. It’s common in my fam, heck most girls i like are browner than me (except the most recent one).
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Most of the guys in my family are really fair skinned, I mean light brown hair and really light skin and most all of them, except for two, married darker than them girls.
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in my case, my husband is quite fair in complexion, while my skin colour is tan.
it is an arrange marriage
my husband has no problem with my skin color ( he never said something at least dil ki baat me nhi janti). but my MIL has taunted me many many times for having tan complexion. I get hurt and often think where were her eyes lost when she saw my tan complexion before marriage.
it may also be the case in a marriage.
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my mil is really fair but my hasband is very kala kaloota and i am in between. what should i do now?
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lol
bobbyji, is there a single post of yours where you haven’t mention the race of some fake acquaintance for no real reason? - my best friend’s European wife, my assistant the tall blonde, blah blah. if your kid is race blind, it is definitely not your influence. :halo:
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OP, I’ve seen a few very fair guys go for darker girls..
I think the ones who are unusally light often don’t go for girls who are as light as themselves if they’re the ones doing the choosing..
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Your behavior though is not atypical and I am afraid uncouth people like that need to be dealt with accordingly for the sake of self preservation. I have taken the bold step of banning such people from our lives and this has really enhanced the quality of our lives. Now go look for a dollar that someone might have dropped..lol
We let people of all races and religions enrich our lives so no wonder I talk about all races.
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what if his entire family is just white , will you really have any respect and value in such a setting ?
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Lolx Every one looking for Gori Chiti Bahu, 
Well if you can’t find girls skin darker then a guy then check after wedding day 
you can feel the difference ;p