Re: failing at parenthood??
Motus, I feel for you too. We went through similar growing pains. Here are my two cents:
- first of all, don't condemn yourself, you're not a bad parent, just a new one.
- Don't feel guilty if at times you don't feel that blissful connection with your baby, for some it happens immediately, for others, it takes time, you WILL make that connection inshallah
- Don't make it a routine to let her sleep in your arms, babies are creatures of routine, help her establish a routine.
- Get the book "Happiest baby on the block", it worked for us and many friends
- Finally, at about 3 months, there is a magical change, when the crying lump smiles, I promise you, all these difficult times will be worth it and you won't even remember them. Ask God for help and hold on till the three month mark.
I really pray that things get better inshallah.