Divorce rates are on the increase in Asian communities. What are the factors behind the increase. Is it because a lot of women are working todays?. Is it because people are less tolerant of others today? Is it because people are more selfish? It is because of the stress of work? Is it because people can afford to divorce nowadays? Is it because people are more likely to pursue happiness nowadays…or less likely to stay in unhealthy and unhappy marriages?, or is it that we are just catching up with the indigenous population?.
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Its because people today think its an option when in the old days people wont even talk about it.
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All of the factors you mentioned. Some play a part more than the others. There is no single factor to be blamed.
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i agree with us1415.....lots of ppl think its an option now a days...whereas in olden days it was hardly spoken about....women stuck to their husbands no matter what....not that divorce it isn't an option in Islam, it is but ppl these days take it too lightly.....lil lil arguments and the next thing...i want a divorce!!
me and atif still run by the old rules, its not even worth mentioning let alone talkin about........to us its not an option!
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the idea that u don’t have to spend the rest of ur life with a monster is a factor 
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divorce rates are on the rise (in our culture) for many reasons.
women have now realized that it is ok to get a divorce from (as sara mentioned) a monster and they dont have to live their life in misery.
women have realized that they dont need a man (they are unhappy with) to survive in todays world.... that they will do just fine without him..that they can work and be independent and make a life of their own (with or w/o kids).
couples think that divorce is a solution to all their marital problems. instead of trying to work things out they opt for divorce.
couples just dont have time in todays world to make things work...they are too busy with their careers to make time for each other. (how sad)
divorce should be a last resort for couples.....they should seek divorce ONLY when they have exhausted all other options.
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Divorce rates are on the increase in Asian communities. What are the factors behind the increase. Is it because a lot of women are working todays?. Is it because people are less tolerant of others today? Is it because people are more selfish? It is because of the stress of work? Is it because people can afford to divorce nowadays? Is it because people are more likely to pursue happiness nowadays....or less likely to stay in unhealthy and unhappy marriages?, or is it that we are just catching up with the indigenous population?.
- financial independence
- more awareness of human rights
- availability of other perspectives
- lack of honesty & trust
- media....uncensored exposure to all sorts of entertainments. 6.mood swings.
- why argue and try to sort things out if u have more options kids suffer...thats the worst part of it.
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here’s wat i think major factors r;
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changed priorities…i think its fine if a women wants to work but her first duty shud always be handling her home and she shud pursue her career only if she can manage both well. At times i see women become to busy with their careers and forget that they have a home to take care of too and that often results in clashes between the husband and wife.
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lack of time for each other…i mean usually in an average household the guy is working outside n the wife takes care of the house and often the guy is too busy in his work to give time and imp to his family and/or the wife is too occupied with the house work and the taking care of the children that she mite nt be able to give as much attention to the hubby as he shud get.
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wanting something which might not be possible in their circumstances…its like a women thinking oh her husband bought her diamonds y cant mine do the sam?!? not even thinking abt the financial difference between them…or the husband thinking her wife goes with him to every damn party so y cant mine?!? the husband is now not considering that unlike his own wife the other wife mite have assistances taking care of her household chores.
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demanding too much from each other…the husband treatin the wife as a device for producing children or lukin after the home and not understanding that she has a life of her own too…or that she has her rights over him too and should be also taken as an individual…or the wife treating the husband as a bank and always wanting him to buy him this or that w/o thinking that he hasto work hard 2 make two ends meet and mite nt be able to fulfil all her demands…
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lack of respect for each other and their families…i often see nowadays the girls getting married with this in mind that no matter wat they r going to make every effort to live seperately with their husband and w/o his family living with them…which i think is very wrong. And than there r guys who think that they married the girl and now the girls duty is only towards him or his family and as if she shud forget abt her own family. And often they think they did some ehsaan to the girl’s family by marrying her and now the girl’s family shud do their pooja :halo:
i wl add more later…
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I think desi ppl should go for pre-martital counseling...
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I think thats the main one.
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I think desi ppl should go for pre-martital counseling...
couldnt agree more....many people have these expectations from their potential spouse ...yet they were never addressed before marriage which lead to many problems.
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its not just women who are escaping from monsters. In old days men could be in unhappy marriages where women were bad wives, not treating them and/or teh kids right, not living up to what a marriage should be. Guys could not get out because the societal expectations and thus pressures on them to just stick it out, for the sake of family izzat or for teh future of kids (especially girls who had the stigma of being daughters of a divorced mother), the rather large number of desis who marry in family further complicated the issue because there was no clean break even if there were no kids involved, I mean how do you divorce your khala-zad and ahve a clean break?
Now just as women are more able to walk away, men are too, because its more acceptable in society.
although, in the west atleast, the divorce settlements still overwhelmingly favour the women, as one of my good pals says 'its cheaper or keep her'
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The level of tolerance has decreased immensely.
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I think people don't work hard at it. They get bored. They want to live in a fantasy Bollywood movie.
Marriage needs constant oiling, the recognition that I too can be wrong, and giving it a 100%.
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expectations vs. what can be delivered.
You deliver what is expected or you get what you expect, you are happy, no matter what the relationship, parent-kid, boss-employee or husband-wife.
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Divorce rates are on the increase in Asian communities. What are the factors behind the increase. Is it because a lot of women are working todays?. Is it because people are less tolerant of others today? Is it because people are more selfish? It is because of the stress of work? Is it because people can afford to divorce nowadays? Is it because people are more likely to pursue happiness nowadays....or less likely to stay in unhealthy and unhappy marriages?, or is it that we are just catching up with the indigenous population?.
I would say all the factors you mentioned above form the main reasons why people nowadays opt for divorce...
also, divorce / talaaq is acceptable in the muslim society more these days since our parents, grandparents time - therefore, the newer generation keep it in mind as a back-up last resort option when things are not going there way or the way they expected them to.
However, there are many of these divorce cases where only one party is to blame - i.e. a violent husband, or an aggressive demanding wife who doesnt respect her husband - in these cases a divorce is the right way to go about it as Islam doesnt say that you stick in a marriage where u are suffering endless abuse/grief, whether physical or emotional... marriage is a commitment, nikah is a sacred bond - one has to have good understanding of islam, what a nikah is and the duties and responsibilities of being a husband/wife are - to fully understand and act in a responsible manner and this in turn helps one to adjust, compromise and work their marriage, instead of just giving up over petty issues...
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Keeping in mind divorce being the last option!!!
people now a days are very opened and aware of what they are being treated to whether right or wrong.. its not like b4 olden times… the world has become so fast and productive.. its never too bad for a wife to work when she knows she is educated and cant be treated like a slave by the husband!
Like my mother in law whos 1 million % against whatever the girl today is doing is wrong, keeps on brain washing her son about all the crap in the world… there comes a time when my husband lost his job and was at home for 8 months, at that time i was earning.. and that good for nothing idiot took my full salary being my husband and gave me only 500 to spend and gave his mom 5000 and used the rest on his ayashi!!! the height is that the mother asked the son to pay their house rent which was his share of 18,000 out of the 3 brothers.. this is absolute nonsence, how can a mother even say something like that to her son when hes not earning for the past 8 months… who was the victim of the entire situation… I WAS!!! he treated me like s*** for 3 months i was not suppose to spend money on anything because we were gathering the amount to pay the rent!!!
the system from the very core is so pathetic i cant say! only 5% of men in our country know that a wife is also a human, shes not a toy or piece of cloth where u can dump her anytime u want!!! she also has requirements and also needs attention!!!
i am a working mother with 2 daughters, i am having a fired up argument everyday in my home!!! i will not in any case stop working now that i know the mentality of my husband!!! regardless he being above 30 and having to daughters he still acts and thinks like a 5 year old…
believe me, if my tolerance reaches a certain level i will definitely go for a divorce 
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can relate to u, go for it girl....30 ho yah 50 cheapness has no agelimits.
if u are earning go for your peace of mind.....u'll die and nobody would give a s*** about you hard work, sacrifice...
leave him!!!
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wow kornl that must be rough 