Re: Facing a problem :(
Excuse me, don't touch me. or make a face -_-. tell your husband. how long has it been?
I can't say him directly as he seems to me my elder bro. We have been together for a long time but I have noticed it for last few months. Telling hubby, I thought to share but.......... I don't know, maybe it will be my last step eventually!!
Stand at least 4 feet away, seriously, no rocket science..................................now...................But to serve the life1 minimum requirement, first answer a few questions.........Is he married? Does he have kids?What kind of discussions do you have with him when he touches your shoulder? Does he grab it or touches it? Where is his wife when he is doing all this? Is he a Paki/Fob? Where is your husband when that happens...why doesn't he notice this?.......how are things between you and your husband......
I have always distant myself from my hubby's friends, in fact, any man I am talking to. He would do it, for example, when we are in the Car, hubby and me on the front seat and he's at back... so you know when one's talking from the back seat, they usually bend themselves to the front so that the people on front can hear them. That's when he does! and other examples like that!
Yes he is married. He has kids. The elder should be around 12. His wife is in Pak with kids. He is a Paki. Its all simple discussion as I already mentioned that I don't have a single doubt on the niyat of this man. He is really a brother to me.
My husband is around when he is doing that but as I said, he doesn't touch the shoulder too hard, its just that he slightly touches it. You know people who would touch you to address you or who would touch you to have attention... He does it that way.
Alhamdulillah, things between two of us are really great without a single doubt.
keep a reasonable distance from him, if he tries to get closer, move back.
Read above paragraph.
Simply... if you are in doubt then you should not hurt him if he is doing it unwillingly.... but next time when he do it make a weird/grumpy face and pause your discussion and see your shoulder... He himself will observe it and get embarrassed...
*if not then next time ask him to remove his hand that your shoulder is paining... with some act...
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or try to stay at a distance...
talking to husband should be a last option...
btw some people are habitual... :)
HM, your idea sounds good, only that I will have to have a lot of courage to do that. I would not want to make him feel what I feel about him as it would hurt him and hurt his purity. I, with all my heart, know it, he has no evil intentions behind that. Its just his habit.
He doesn't keep his hand on my shoulder. Its just a seconds act. You know when one touches you to have your attention.
Yes, he is habitual. I just need a way out.
bol doon phir apnay miyan ko??