Who said anything about chatting? She doesnt chat with them, she barely gets on MSN once a year, if that much. Who has time to chat these days? Be it male or female. One of the guys he asked about was the MSA President from her uni that is happily married, with kids and all. It makes no logical sense.
Facebook is a networking tool now…not a dating site…at least for most of us it still is. I dont see why anyone would get sooo paranoid and bent out of shape over a buddy on her list she hasnt spoken to in over 10 yrs aside from a passing “how are ya” on her wall.
As for the overly dramatic “he is entering hell” bit right there. You need to lighten up and stop being such a dark and negative cloud all the time. Fortunately for her, you’re not the one being asked to get married. Dont worry about it being a “go” or “no go” for you.