So one of my friends is talking to this guy…they’re pretty serious.
She added him to her facebook recently. He went through all of her friends and questioned her about every single one of the guys in her friends list. They’re not posting dumb things on her Wall or anything like that either.
I dont get it…what is the big deal?
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Hm, that's just silly. People need to get with the times. You CAN have people you KNOW of the opposite sex, and honestly, a facebook friends list can include people you haven't seen since elementary school. No joke. I have kids adding me from 1st grade.
:-/
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Facebook is a really good way of checking how someone is. But I find it a little strange to question every single one of the guys. He could have asked in general how she knew a lot of those guys, were they coworkers or classmates. If things are serious, he's going to be a little possessive and at the same time wonder if she's the right girl. He might look at the pictures of the friends to see if they have any bad habits, is she with those same people often.
People on facebook usually have hundreds of "friends" from the community, school (from all grade levels), and work- the guy should realize the girl can't possibly be close to all of the male friends and be in contact with them. On top of that, if they've been serious for a long time, he should know her well enough to trust her.
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she should look at his friend's list and ask him about all his female friends
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^ yeah man do that
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Was he trying to just 'communicate' with her?
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I feel that the guy is very dominating . If he's himself on facebook he should know that people ad many other people on facebook just like that !!! even those whom they haven't even spoken in years. Friendship is one thing and acquaintances is another. And if she was a girl who had something to hide then she wouldn't have added him to her facebook. I don't understand the guy what he is doing is that he is doubting her and asking questions at the stage where the relationship has not even actually started.
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omg what a loser! This isn't even called possessive, this is psychotic behaviour!
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Shakki, suspicious guy ... trust me ... advise her to run like hell.
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LOL @ kaka...Im not sure if that was his way to communicating or what.
She added him and then started to hear comments like "wow, look at all these guys" and "you know a lot of guys"...what is up with that?
She doesnt have any more or less guy friends in her friends list then anyone else I know.
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reha ... i think some people are just overly posessive ... and its not just guys .. its both guys and grls ... and i think you should just sit then down and tell them that yea u can't really do this kinda thing and explain it to them that living in western countries obviously ur gonna have contact with guys and talk to htem
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Well instead of she coming to you , she should have just sit with him , hold his hand and said '' Janu don't feel insecure . I am all yours and nothing happened and will never happen " . Bus baat khatam .
She added him and then started to hear comments like "wow, look at all these guys" and "you know a lot of guys"...what is up with that?
the guy's straight, right?
Well instead of she coming to you , she should have just sit with him , hold his hand and said '' Janu don't feel insecure . I am all yours and nothing happened and will never happen " . Bus baat khatam .
Nomi, she is just confiding in me because she finds this strange and also kind of...intimidating.
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Nomi, she is just confiding in me because she finds this strange and also kind of...intimidating.
Reha don't you think that when someone shares a bad thing about someone else then you loose respect for that person . Means we start judging them without understanding their real relationship .
I think if I trust someone with all my feelings then I'll be really pissed to know that she is sharing bad stuff about me with her friends .
Ok here I am concluding that they both are in love and wants to get married and all . But still . I hope u know what I am trying to say .
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I do know what you mean and it makes sense. In the event that things work out between them...other people might not look at him the same way because off things she has said about him.
I guess she doesnt feel comfortable yet sharing these things with him. :(
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^^ but isn't that well known and expected?... girls talk to their female friends about their significant other and guys talk to their guy friends too. And trust me, guys do that too, I hear the guys living next door to me talking in the hallway about their girlfriends' weird behaviors. sometimes you just need to ask others if they think someone's behavior is strange or alarming, then talk to the bf.
She added him and then started to hear comments like "wow, look at all these guys" and "you know a lot of guys"...what is up with that?
God I hope that wasn't actually on her FB wall???
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Nooooo...he said it to her in passing over the phone a few times now. It does seem like its bugging him because it just keeps coming up.