Thanks for your response, I checked the fb invitation and I guess everyone is invited through the face book including fiances family and I did see all my children and wifes name there also. My wife feels happy for him as he had a sad and lonely life now the Syrians are making him family. I think Darrins mother will live with them and she is very controlling. Her other sister is married to a white meathead so I doubt she will allow her to live with them. Her mom was a widow and raised kids on her own so is very possessive. Her mom is very active so maybe she will help with cooking and stuff.
I normally do things without expectations but a bit fussy about manners and it gets really tiresome to always be giving. Even with the friends in community some took advantage of our generosity and I had to decide to not meet with them anymore.