as i were in pak, i was so shocked as our neighbours.. use bleech cream on her baby.. she said i just want her to have fairy colour, she use to call her my little pathani… i was really shocked because i donot think that its good for children skin… wut u guys think??
>>she said i just want her to have fairy colour,, she use to call her `my little pathani<<
Would she rather have a child who has a "fairy colour" in childhood and grows up with deformed skin colour (please God Forbid) in her adult life ? What skin colour can be better than the one that Allah gave you with His own Will ?
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Thats just awful. And who knows what it will do to a baby's sensitive skin - forget it if the baby rubs his face and then gets some in the eyes, it could blind the poor little thing.
I've seen much ignorance about baby care over there, and its no wonder that Pak has the 3rd highest infant mortality rate in the world. Even something as simple as giving a newborn honey - something they all do - can be deadly to an infant. Honey contains trace amounts of botulism - not enough to harm a child over the age of 2 but potentially deadly to an infant.
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Yer neighbor is a friggin senseless foo. What kind of ignorance is that. Using bleach on yer lil baby to make her look fair? Does she even know how harmful the bleach is even on an adult skin..And why is it so necessary for her to make her kid look fair, gosh..the mentality!
Gosh..now I have seen it all..
She must not be mentally stable.
oh i think she's typical of desi moms...my sis-in-laws friend won't let her daughter/sons play in the sun so they won't get dark...this ladies taking one step further..
Poor baby though...
I've heard about people being cautious of tanning
...and i thought all the Fair and Lovely stuff was ridiculous.
But this really is almost bordering on abuse since it can be dangerous and physically/emotionally damaging for the child.
Jiya, Somebody should seroiusly stop this ignorant dumb bi--h! She is seriously harming her baby' xtremely delicate skin by trying make her "gorii" something that is unfortunately veryyyy common amongst Desi moms, like they won't allow you to play in t/ sun or won't let you go out after applying sort of moisturing cream kay God forbid 'aap kaa rung naa kaalaa/ kum ho jaae!' But using bleach cream on a babys skin is just plain sickening. Uughhh I'm so mad (specially since I'm a mother myself of a precious lil infant!)
Somebody STOP HER!
Somebody should tell her how dangerous is bleach! It colors the fine facial hair not the skin. skin color is dependant on genatic make up.
As an adult with sensitive skin I had bleached on my cousin’s wedding and had red patches on my skin. It took weeks too get back to normal.
My aunt a skin specialist says bleach strips natural protective properties of the skin, and also splits the downey hair on the face- causes facial hair problems to go worse. 
Kids are always changing and growing, the important thing she should focus on is to raise a healthy child with healthy skin, all the rest is superficial.
That’s just sad…this crappy mentality focused on fair skin just pisses me off. I mean, what is this obsession that we see? I know this auntie and one of her daughter’s isn’t as fair skinned as the others..so she used to taunt her and call her names, assuming it was all some sort of joke. Well obviously my mom and I told her that it wasn’t funny and to love her for who she is, not damage her self-esteem my making her think that having tanned skin is unacceptable.
Someone has GOT to get it through your neighbor’s head that this is outrageous. ::sigh::…the more I try to understand our culture, the more I end up despising it.
you should have told her to use it on the kid when she s 4 or 5 years old, but not on a baby....
err gosh some ppl— 
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OMG 
that’s terrible
jiya i reckon you should tell her that you understand her reasons for doing this but this is not the age and what she’s doing is gona cause permanent damage to the baby’s health 
the girl can use bleach and stuff on her face but not before 16 i think
man this is terrible
its wrong of her to do that, but there are underlying reasons for her actions, ususally in Pakistan, despite that the trend of marriage is changing, but most lower- middle class families have arranged amarriages for their daughters and what does the guys's family look for, the skin color, believe it or not its true. Maybe this woman as wrong as she is, thinks shes doin her daughter a favor kyonke as sick and wrong as it sounds, some poeple still have the mentality that ppl with fair skin are better. ITs not true and if u look in the magazines, the trend of models have changed from jus Light skin faces (wwhether threy were beautiful or not) to acttually beautiful girls who arnt light skinned but are halla beautiful. I have a cousin and as beautiful and attractive and charming as she is, her self esteem is so low cuz all she cares about is skin color cuz shes been told by her freinds an family friends that iska rishta to zara muskil se hoga.. n shes grrown up wit that and as much as i can tell her shes really beautiful (she really is) her mind doesnt let her believe it. That womans action is not soley hers. our culture plays a part in it. On Tv there are advertisements of fair n lovely and bleaching creams screaming, apna app ko gora banaye, rang nikharaye blah blah blah, if the tv commercials keeps hammering into the brains of lil girls and mothers worried about their daughters marriage that sumthin is wong with dark skin color, what are women to do. Women are self concious creatures and teenage little girls, who r discovering themselves and figuring out their role in society are constantly told that fair skin is better an if udont have fair skin, use our cream , u can become one of the fair maidens by using our produucts and when little girls grow up with that notion, obviously it becomes a vicious cycle. I wish somehow we could get all these damn bleachin advertisemnt banned.
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oh i think she's typical of desi moms...my sis-in-laws friend won't let her daughter/sons play in the sun so they won't get dark..
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preventing kids from going out in the sun is actually very good and safe for children because in Pakistan the temperature is usually so high that children and adults can die from it....
It's pretty sad to see people trying to change what God has created....Even sadder is that this attitude is not only limited to Pakistani society but also places like US where most people are well educated...Women and men spend thousands of dollars on surgeries and implants to change their body parts, skin color, etc....Very upsetting!
Deviliciousss I agree with you... like totally!!
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I've seen much ignorance about baby care over there, and its no wonder that Pak has the 3rd highest infant mortality rate in the world.
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Pak has high infant mortality rate more likely because of poverty and not because of lack of care. Otherwise desis really do give their all to their kids, trust me!
Tell her a better thing would be to take some atta, knead it and rub it on her face everday. Once she grows up she may not have to face the probem of access facial hair. :p
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Tell her a better thing would be to take some atta, knead it and rub it on her face everday. Once she grows up she may not have to face the probem of access facial hair. :p
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I was just going to say that I have heard and seen this done to babies here in T.O. I thought it was strange.
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good advice fanta :D I say she should wash her daughter's face with gram flour too(when she grows up a little) to keep her skin smooth and clean....that's a nice cheap face scrub! :D
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