I have a question. When you treated her like crap..........what exactly did you do? Did you ignore her? Give her the cold vibe? Or just brush off her sentiments with cold remarks?
^However you treated her, was the girl hurt? Did she start avoiding you? And in her absence.........is that when you realized you "love" her?
Whatever you do............the best way to express your feelings is in person. It just gives it a more sincere touch. Or you can write her a letter.........BUT then reinforce the contents of the letter by **ALSO **expressing feelings face-to-face. Just tell her the truth. Tell her what you feel. Tell her that you never realized how deeply you care about her and how much she's a part of your life....until after you dismissed her confession.
Some things to reflect over:
1) Make sure that you really DO love her and that you're not just feeling this way because "you miss her attention". ** 2) You mentioned she might think you're using her for sex. Why would she think that? Is there anything you've said in the past about previous relationships that would make her think that? If she's not the kind of girl who sleeps around................please don't take advantage of her**.
3) Even if you do express your feelings to her, it's best to stay within Islamic boundaries regarding relationship while getting to know each other. And then propose formally if you are interested in marrying her.....and are of marriageable age.
^couldn't agree more..RV
coz if this is like this and after some time u will again treat her like crap then she will so hurted...and she will think that may be u were making her a timepass...so plzz first make sure do u really love her??