Is it just me or is anyone else a little disturbed at the trend of all of these extravagantly expensive weddings happening in Pakistan now a days? The brides are all stunning but the amount of money that these events are associated with, not just on the bride and her immediate family but on their guests and everyone attending. It seems almost unreal at how much money is going to these things while majority rest of the country lives below the poverty line? The gap between the rich and the poor in Pakistan is crazy! What do you guys think?
My other question is, and this may sound ignorant because I don’t really travel to Pakistan anymore, have no links there but where is all the hungama and security threats when these lavish events are taking place? Normal people are dying in the streets and then at the same time these big parties are going off without a hitch ? Am I mistaken on my perception of what’s going on or does the news only report one side of things?? Back in the day food, dawats were banned from being served at weddings and now the guests and all are dawned in diamonds and jewels galore! What’s wrong with this?
Extravagant Lavish Weddings Trends vs. Pakistans Poverty
I guess those living in Pakistan currently can answer.
I've also wondered how ppl wear so much gold as from what I've heard, brides and guests wear fake Jewellery in weddings nowadays as daakus come and robs shaadis. So, some ppl just wear fake stuff. Is this true? Or just an excuse someone makes when they do not wear gold Jewellery to a shaadi or dress the bride in gold?
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Anything normal is happening in Pakistan?
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If you base your view on what's going on in Pakistan on news reports you have an extremely limited view. I don't agree to those lavish weddings either, but it's not like everyone in Pakistan is sitting at home in fear of a bomb attack. People are going out, working, having fun, living their normal lives. From a purely statistical point of view life in Lahore is not much more dangerous than in New York.
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Well people have money and they spend it, that is what drives the economy.
These people who organize these lavish weddings in Pakistan, contribute to jobs. The only reason it can be called wrong is if they broke a law or if they earned the money illegally. Do you not eat food because some kid in Africa or Thar doesn't have food? I'm guessing not.
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Count me in the group of people who found this extravagant expenses so disturbing plus hard to manage... yesterday my friend told me there would be around Rs 400,000 (may be not too much for mummy dadys) accumulated expenses incurring on his wedding , I was shocked thinking being an Independent guy, how the hell i am gonna manage all this, while there is something more important to do in your life like paying semester fees and you know, other stuff.
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the weddings are lavish but they do drive the economy. alot of businesses are based around weddings. there is unrest in the country but how long can people live in their homes in fear. weddings provide the few occasions of entertainment for us. you get to see your family and enjoy.
there is a lot of poverty and thats depressing. if you want to help there may be some organizations helping poor people in pakistan. you shd do some research into it and find some organization in your country which supports causes in pakistan and volunteer
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Why stop at wedding? wasting resources is our "mizaj" now be it wedding, everyday clothing, everyday food and what not.
I know many "badshah loog" who throw our the food next day coz "they do not eat leftovers" and they do not think about 10000000s of kids who sleep hungry...
Remember, Allah says that we will be answerable on day of judgement even if we waste a grain of rice. We all are guilty of doing it...
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thats true, i didnt think of it in an aspect of driving the economy. thats one way to look like it..
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I think you feel it extravaganza, on the other side of coin you can see high prices.
I think *asraf *is forbidden and distasteful practice. If you visit wedding forum , you will see bridal dress is hitting more than million rupees mark.
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I do agree that our weddings are becoming way too OTT now...but this is now becoming true in every aspect of our lives. Like D6C pointed out...throwing out food like its something they have a right to do.
And its not just in Pakistan...its everywhere now. The wedding industry is a booming business and wastage is becoming a fashion.
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^True wasting money is becoming a fashion trend, spending ridiculous amount of money is totally uncomfortable for me. I dress moderately decent, nothing too lavish nor expensive but I never feel under dressed either.
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Well people have money and they spend it, that is what drives the economy. These people who organize these lavish weddings in Pakistan, contribute to jobs. The only reason it can be called wrong is if they broke a law or if they earned the money illegally. Do you not eat food because some kid in Africa or Thar doesn't have food? I'm guessing not.
^100% agree with the above.
Its no different that going out for lavish dinners, spending on designer clothes or bags or buying lawn joras.
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This reminds me "Let me give you a tip on a clue to men's characters: the man who damns money has obtained it dishonorably; the man who respects it has earned it.-Ayn Rand.
The dilemma of our society is people who actually can afford to live lavishly, they live very modestly & on the other hand there are those who are new to prosperity, they are newly affluent.They just want to be talked-about and they are successfull in a way, we are talking about them.Apart from that, If somebody plans his wedding to be simple, we denounce his idea and tag him, Kanjoos, Ek shadi kerni hai bla bla.Banda jahay tu jahay kahan, Jesay koi khush hai kernay do, just be accountable for youself.
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When I was getting married few years ago, I was shocked at the level of sheer pompousness and wastage of resources that was expected of me as a bride. I refused to play at the hands of this extremely pathetic culture and till today people remind me how wrong and disappointing I was !
And as a result , I seriously do not feel sorry for anyone now who cries about how life is mengi in pakistan etc etc .. I mean these people are liars , they have money to throw on pomp and show , but no money to get educated properly. They have money to throw on useless rasams , but no money for any constructive activity ...
Oh and one more thing, more the then relatives or the grooms family, its the girls own family and the bride herself that puts immense pressure on her parents to do the useless expense !
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this happening becoz every 1 is comparing there wedding with there frnds or relative but i think this is useless becoz u can save those money and give to bride or groom for their future ....but now every1 wants expensve halls ,dressess,photograhpher etc just the sake of people ..
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When I was getting married few years ago, I was shocked at the level of sheer pompousness and wastage of resources that was expected of me as a bride. I refused to play at the hands of this extremely pathetic culture and till today people remind me how wrong and disappointing I was !
And as a result , I seriously do not feel sorry for anyone now who cries about how life is mengi in pakistan etc etc .. I mean these people are liars , they have money to throw on pomp and show , but no money to get educated properly. They have money to throw on useless rasams , but no money for any constructive activity ...
Oh and one more thing, more the then relatives or the grooms family, its the girls own family and the bride herself that puts immense pressure on her parents to do the useless expense !
The inflation over here is terrible. The people who complain about mengai usually aren't the ones spending millions on wedding receptions. The people spending millions don't want your sympathies. The rest of the 99% have minimal access to health care, education or any other necessity of life, so they complain for all the right reasons.