My hubby wants an extra ordianry wife able to do all stuffs like grocery, payment of bills on time, understand him all the time , do shopping and this and that etc. But when ever I tried to show extra effort he gets like last sunday I went for grocery alone first time after my licence, I told him where I went and what I bought, he said ok then go now and I am going to take rest. After one and half an hour I finished my 70% of grocery when I drove my car to last shop he called me, I could not attned the call coz of driving when I parked the car he again called me, Where are you? I said I am on my way don’t worry I will be home on time and after 20 minutes I will be at home. When I entered in home I saw he is very “pareshaan”.
He said I am afraid and didn’t took rest at all then whats my fault. Tum akelay drive ker kay gaen to mujhay pareshani ho rahi thi kay kahen koi problem na ho jaey rastay main mujhay bhi saath jana chaheay tha:( .
I have no problem to be out going and doing work, and I don't to be my self extra ordinary, I just want myself a normal lady but I want him not to be "pareshaan". Now coz of his efforts I again start my studies and make my self as active as he likes :( some times unsuccessful but trying to do my best.
Jias -- maybe you should sit down and have a long talk with him. I mean he might have certain expectations for you, but you shouldnt have to be miserable while trying to live up to them. And from the sound of things...it just seems like he wants you to be independent. But definately go and have a talk with him.
^^ Why she cant talk while standing up so she has to sit down and have a long talk?
Jias--I take it you are newly weds? If so, give it sometime. If not, listen to Muslim_Queen, even sit down and have a long talk.
MQ u r right, he want that I will live like an independant person not like that a woman waiting for her husband to go with her for grocery or other stuffs and he wants I utilize my abilities, and do efforts for myself not for him, so I will try my best for us.
Jias, sounds to me like you're a newly wed, new to the country, living in the west. You just got your driver's license and are starting to venture out. Your husband has probably lived here a while. I sort of see his side in this, I worry about MY wife when she goes out for say groceries and doesn't come back in a certain time, I usually just call her and all is well but I still worry sometimes even though she's not new to the country.
Just take him along with you for your errands 3-4 times and he will feel better when he is able to see you in 'action' shopping, driving, parking, not running over pedestrians, he'll eventually get bored going with you and then won't worry that much when you go out on your own again.
Of course I could be completely wrong... good luck!
BTW The name of your thread is very mis-leading. You know what sweetie; going grocery shopping doesn't make you into an extra-ordinary wife.
Here is my list and better be done every day for someone to qualify as a Extra-Ordinary Wife:
Kids Breakfast
Vacuum House
Baths to kids
Cook Dinner
Take kids out to the playground
Lunch to kids
Read to kids for a 45 min nap
Go do other errands (pick up from cleaners, grocery shopping, banking etc)
Clean the house even more
If you have pets squeeze the dog walking in there too bwteen
Hubby comes in, takes his shoes off kiss his feet, "aap ka hukum sar ankhon peh",That type of respect
Fix hubby a nice stiff drink
Ask about how the day went
Set dinner
After dinner put kids to sleep
Give hubby a foot massage
GIve hubby a back rub
Bedroom Stuff
Repeat from beginning its another day.
Now if all you little chickies can do all this in one day, you qualify for an extra-ordinary wife, otherwise atleast clean your pocketbooks (they are Filthy with a capital F).
, do shopping and this and that etc. But when ever I tried to show extra effort he gets 
Tum akelay drive ker kay gaen to mujhay pareshani ho rahi thi kay kahen koi problem na ho jaey rastay main 
mujhay bhi saath jana chaheay tha:( .