It does suit for Life?
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**If your husband is enjoying a secret rendezvous with another woman, don’t run after him with a knife, for the extra-marital affair is a sign that your marriage is a healthy one. *
That’s the claim of France’s most prominent female psychologist Maryse Vaillant in controversial new book on the effects of infidelity on married life, Men, Love, Fidelity, reports * The Telegraph * . *
*Vaillant reckons that men who keep mistresses actually improve their marriage.
“[Most] don’t do it because they no longer love them, on the contrary,” she said. “They simply need breathing space. For such men, who are in fact profoundly monogamous, infidelity is almost unavoidable”.
Once women accept that the “pact of fidelity is not natural but cultural”, and that infidelity is essential to the “psychic functioning” of certain men who are still very much in love, it can be a “very liberating” for women, she added.
In her book, Vaillant insists that fidelity is not, by definition proof of love.
“They are often men whose father was physically or morally absent … during their childhood. These men have a completely idealised view of their father and the paternal function,” she said. “They lack suppleness and are prisoners to an idealised image of a man of duty.”
Read more: Extra-marital affairs are good for marriage! - The Times of India Extra-marital affairs are good for marriage! - Times of India*
that’s solely the opinion of this french psychologist, doesn’t make what she says correct. It’s utter rubbish, she only mentions that it’s ok for men to have affairs, is it also good for the marriage when the wife has affairs??
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if Extra marital affair life means healthy marriage life, my marriage life is obese :)
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^ Is that the english or desi version of healthy? :D
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:D @ desi healthy
reminds me of our first visit to Pakistan after our first kid. Our son was all healthy and his growth was in exceptional zone on growth chart (as per his pediatricians) but from the time we landed in Pakistan to the time we left, all the aunties were going "hayee hayee bechara kitna kamzooor hai...kuch khilatey pilatey nahi ho kia"
:)
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Does not suit our desi culture… its the lame justification of extra marital affairs which they commonly have in the Western world… our desi culture of sincerity and loyalty between spouses ROCKS 
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:D @ desi healthy
reminds me of our first visit to Pakistan after our first kid. Our son was all healthy and his growth was in exceptional zone on growth chart (as per his pediatricians) but from the time we landed in Pakistan to the time we left, all the aunties were going "hayee hayee bechara kitna kamzooor hai...kuch khilatey pilatey nahi ho kia"
:)
LOL!!
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That's an interesting point. Many cultures throughout history were polygynous. And Islam permits a man to have more than one wife. And yeah I know all the feminists are gonna freak out but biologically speaking there was less risk for a guy to cheat than a girl. If there are 4 wives and 1 husband, there's no doubt who the father is. If it's 4 husbands and 1 wife, well, you could be raising another man's child.
Nowadays, everyone is monogamous but that doesn't mean the that the urge to "look around" doesn't exist.
But monogamy is beneficial to the average guy because it almost guarantees a spouse for everyone whereas back in the day, it would be more prudent for a woman to have say 1/10 of a rich guy vs 100% of a poor guy.
By the way, I don't agree with the whole "open marriage" idea, just playing devil's advocate.
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this sounds like taking eachother for granted.... works for some people :P
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Oh goodness, when will people learn that cheating is cheating? No, there is nothing natural about it...these articles are just lame attempts at creating an excuse for infidelity when in fact............................................there is no excuse.