Do potential spouses and families look at extended family when accepting a girl?
I’m getting to know someone and mashaAllah he comes from a good family.
My parents and my brother are decent people. I don’t have much family, only my dad’s side.
My dad’s has only brothers who have married white people, kids before marriage etc.
We are still in contact with these uncles as, their choices haven’t defined who they are. They very nice men. No drugs, no crime…they have just married non-Muslims.
Would this put off a guy and his family or do people not care about aunties and uncles?
It depends on the family. My family DOES look at extended family, but to a point. Most families won't care about stuff like that as it doesn't pertain to your guy or his immediate family UNLESS it's something crazy. Having non-desi/non-muslim wives isn't that big of an issue, in my mind.
If the guy and his family like you and are fond of your immediate family, the extended family shouldn't matter. There are worse things than marrying non-muslims anyway.
They might not care if they married white women but they will care if they had children before marriage. Yeah that is major point that will be hard to overlook
I agree sarah. you should look for someone who has similar believes as you, and if they have issues with your extended family, then they aren't the right match for you and the family.
Shouldn't be an issue, OP. But we are not mind-readers, so can't say if he or his family will have objection. Hopefully not. You can either ask him or wait and see what happens.