Re: Experiences of living a dorm life...
No seriously... then, they would not have thrilling stories like you to tell to others
they will feel left out:(
Peace bro AQ
When you have kids you will see inshaAllah ...
I once saw a documentary where a girl was being interviewed and she said that she would do whatever she wanted and that if her mother had the 'freedom' to do those things then it would be hypocritical for her mother to prevent her. Also, she added that her mother lives today to learn from her mistakes so she wants to be in the same position.
This may sound fair, but to me it is a big problem:
Humanity will only progress if we do not keep making the same mistakes over in each generation. It is not wisdom that people learn from their mistakes, that is but common sense, it is however, wisdom when people learn from the mistakes of others so they don't have to experience the ills. The ills leave some people more careful but very much prone and weakened.
My father never used to do very bad or dangerous things not even in childhood, and he taught us this accordingly. However, I never knew why and I was given too much freedom when my folks saw that I had gone past them in education, but that was our collective mistake. My father was the wise one for never going to places that were risky. I had to learn the hard way. He thought by nesting us away from the harm was the way to keep us protected from it, but instead there were some gaps, like trust and in-depth explanation. If we do not engage in something harmful either bodily or spiritually we should know why so when people ask we can explain. It is not enough to 'just say no' or treat some subject as taboo giving 'silence' to your kids and expect them to listen or understand.
It is our Islamic responsibility to explain and encourage in the best ways to prevent them from harming themselves. We should do so in a way that makes them appeal to our sense of reasoning, and trust us in that and provide for them other ways to spend their time which are halal and harm free.