Why are many brides opting for this combination these days? Just my personal opinion I would do the opposite where I would go for non-designer but get a decent lehnga and get gold jewelery to match it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this as it’s the brides day to shine and whatever she feels comfortable in she should!
I don’t know maybe I have been married to long but I feel that gold is an investment where your dress you wear once or twice and it gets shelved with other clothes that you wore few times.
I am not trying to offend anyone here just trying to understand this idea as I am seeing many brides-to be going for this idea.
I can see where someone is struggling with money that they would opt for this option but in most scenarios these girls are from high-middle class families.
I'm not married so can't speak from personal experience. But one reason I can think of is that someone has a really expensive outfit and wants a heavy jewelry set for the wedding. But with the really heavy, over-the-top jewelry sets, how often and where else can you wear it if you're not the bride? Especially the tikka/nath.
As for the heavy outfit, I see many other former brides wearing their outfits during other family member's or friend's wedding MINUS the jewelry/dupatta on head. Some here have mentioned they wear the top with a different bottom/dupatta.
I wore a heavy lengha but it wasn't designer....long shirts weren't really in then either, I wore it once to another wedding and I swore never again to do that.
parts of my jewelery, like the jhumar and the pajangla were artifiicial...they matched exactly wtih the rest of my set. I think what helped was getting two necklaces..a small choker and a bigger one, so they can be worn together or individually and therefore u get more use out of them.
coolgirl, I think it depends a lot of what is important to your family. When I get married I'll wear my mother's real tikka, that she was given by her parents. Her father did something very smart, he had the jeweler design it with a necklace bale, so that it could be worn on a chain or ribbon around the neck like a pendant & added a pair of matching light earrings. It didn't sit in the locker because it was essentially another set for her & she wears it (she's never had reason to wear tikka since then). They gave her lots of plain gold bangles that go with everything, so she could wear just a couple for a light look, or a stack them to wear with a heavier set, but didn't worry about having different matching bangles for each set.
Things are a bit different now - its not so much the style to wear heavier jewelry & its more socially acceptable to wear plated or artificial jewelry if that's the look you want. I know my grandfather would never have thought it was acceptable, that's just how he was raised.
My friends, they aren't so comfortable wearing gold so they put more emphasis on the clothes. I try to buy all my plainer suits with two duputtas, a heavy one & a lighter one, so they can be worn more frequently for different occasions with different jewelry & bag etc. When my mother buys fancy saris she usually has the tailor make two blouses, one for her & one for me. I think its smart to do this for your wedding clothes too - have an extra light duputta, a plain pant or churidar, an extra blouse with a different sleeve length so that you can use the clothes again for another event. These things are expensive & you spend so much time planning wedding clothes, its a shame if they (& your jewelry) just sit in a closet.
I wore a heavy lengha but it wasn't designer....long shirts weren't really in then either, I wore it once to another wedding and I swore never again to do that.
parts of my jewelery, like the jhumar and the pajangla were artifiicial...they matched exactly wtih the rest of my set. I think what helped was getting two necklaces..a small choker and a bigger one, so they can be worn together or individually and therefore u get more use out of them.
i had similar ideas abt the jhoomer n baju bandh or pajangla being artificial coz i wudnt be wearing them again after THE day.. i told my MIL i would jus match thm to the orginal sets
I think most girls who buy a desinger lehnga do buy god jewerly. They may not wear it that day due to matching jelwery issues but they definetly take it to their new home.
What's wrong with opting for an expensive lehnga and articifal/plated jewelry? I think the dress usually makes the bride moreso than her jewelry. And unless you want to spend 10k+ on your entire ensemble, why not get that amazing dream dress you wanted from a designer, and get some nice but not SOLID gold jewelry to go with it. When you think about it, you're going to get a necklace, maybe two, earrings, a tika, jhumur, bangles, rings, maybe armlets, anklets, panjas, and the list goes on. Think about adding all that up in real gold.. If the artificial set looks just as good with your dress (and sometimes probably goes better with antique or silvery kaam), then why wouldn't you go for it?? sorry, I think it's just crazy to put pure gold bridal jewelry over all other expenditures just for the sake of having real gold on your wedding. You'll get plently of authentic pieces from your family and inlaws as it is!
i had similar ideas abt the jhoomer n baju bandh or pajangla being artificial coz i wudnt be wearing them again after THE day.. i told my MIL i would jus match thm to the orginal sets
my first day set had huge jhmoor and tikka, bigger than the har with huge earrings. it wasnt designer but it did looked designer and my sister convinced me to buy that and i did bought the whole set. and my uncle convinced my mum to get gold strings for the beads ( normally jewellers dont do that) to make it furthur heavy.
i havnt wore it again. but i love it. my sister told me to keep the earrings and necklace and return other parts and buy different necklaces. havnt done that yet.
Why are many brides opting for this combination these days? Just my personal opinion I would do the opposite where I would go for non-designer but get a decent lehnga and get gold jewelery to match it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this as it's the brides day to shine and whatever she feels comfortable in she should!
I don't know maybe I have been married to long but I feel that gold is an investment where your dress you wear once or twice and it gets shelved with other clothes that you wore few times.
I am not trying to offend anyone here just trying to understand this idea as I am seeing many brides-to be going for this idea.
I can see where someone is struggling with money that they would opt for this option but in most scenarios these girls are from high-middle class families.
normally dress is far more cheaper than buying the gold set with all accessories!
I agree, i'd def. dish out more money on the dress, especially consdering how nowadays, they are being worn again. Plus, you get jewelery from family anyway so if you're a dress person, opt for a more pricier dress, the material of the jeweler isn't that important.
That being said, my mom says "larki kay kaam aata hain gold" so it's a good investment. My parents have bought $20K worth of gold in bricks for me and my 3 younger brothers.