Re: Expecting romantic love from an arranged marriage?
Firstly, keep in mind that in an arranged marriage, you really don’t know whether or not there will be romance after the marriage. You don’t know if you two are compatible as a couple. All of a sudden you’re sharing daily life with a person who you really don’t know. Adjusting to living together takes times…and if as a girl you had to move away from your own family…adjusting to dealing with in-laws…all of that is stressful. And god forbid you find out after marriage that there are juts too many personality differences between you and husband…I guarantee you that will effect what goes on in the bedroom.
Secondly, I have no idea why you think that in love marriages, the romance somehow becomes less special as soon as the nikahnama is signed. If nothing else, the passion/romance increases in a love marriage that the couple has absolutely no doubts that they’re compatible as life partners. They already know each other and there is less apprehension about living with a person who you already know. Being recognized as an “official” couple after months or years of dating…being able to be finally live life openly with the person you love…this only increases the passion/romance.