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^ sara your signature!
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Ji? :@:
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my cousins and I visited Pak and were always laughing a lot, making jokes, etc. and we were told that people will think we are kharab for smiling in public and to be 'sober'. we couldn't even sit outside the house on the bench alone cuz of the weird guys. so yes, you are right, over here, smiling is almost over-done, over there everyone looks like they got a fresh thappar.
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fresh thappar look
I learnt this the hard way lol
I'm usually a vey polite, smiley person by nature, so if someone smiles at me or says 'good day' I always reciprocate. I used to frequent a local sandwich shop and one of the workers also attended my uni. He was a pakistani guy on a student visa, and we always had a bit of a chat about work/uni etc. Anyway I had never told him I was married (didnt really see the point it wasnt like he was flirting or giving any signals, so I assumed he realised it was platonic) and whenever me and my husband were in the shop together he was never there.
One day my husband and I were walking through the local park and I saw him playing cricket, I gave him a wave but he kinda gave me a dirty look but i didnt think much of it.
Next time I went into the shop and ordered a baguette, this guy started some all out attack on me infront of all the customers, claiming I was a slapper and a whore for chatting to him when I was married. He even said he had been speaking to his mom about me and that he had considered asking me to marry him (WTF). I was really shocked and embarressed, I promptly cancelled my order and have never been back to the shop.
I told my husband and he thought it was soo funny, I was quite shook up and supprised that general conversation could be so misinterpreted. Now I never speak to FOBs and if I have to I give them lots of dirty looks.
This thread is funny especially this post...finally some constructive humor in this life and relationship forum.
To add my 2 cents..I think sometimes it's easier to be rude than show your true feelings, it's like having a shield around you. People always take the wrong way when you are too nice to them especially the fobs (pls don't be offended)
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You know what. It ain’t even just the Fobs. I find that if you act like that with people in general it gives you more breathing space.
:k:
That sounds quite familiar!
I learnt this the hard way lol
I'm usually a vey polite, smiley person by nature, so if someone smiles at me or says 'good day' I always reciprocate. I used to frequent a local sandwich shop and one of the workers also attended my uni. He was a pakistani guy on a student visa, and we always had a bit of a chat about work/uni etc. Anyway I had never told him I was married (didnt really see the point it wasnt like he was flirting or giving any signals, so I assumed he realised it was platonic) and whenever me and my husband were in the shop together he was never there.
One day my husband and I were walking through the local park and I saw him playing cricket, I gave him a wave but he kinda gave me a dirty look but i didnt think much of it.
Next time I went into the shop and ordered a baguette, this guy started some all out attack on me infront of all the customers, claiming I was a slapper and a whore for chatting to him when I was married. He even said he had been speaking to his mom about me and that he had considered asking me to marry him (WTF). I was really shocked and embarressed, I promptly cancelled my order and have never been back to the shop.
I told my husband and he thought it was soo funny, I was quite shook up and supprised that general conversation could be so misinterpreted. Now I never speak to FOBs and if I have to I give them lots of dirty looks.
It's difficult to know how to behave. I was kind and friendly too, then I had similar problems. Afterwards I started to behave less friendly, especially towards males, then my being less friendly suddenly gave me problems too.
I'm often unsure about how to behave. Now I just don't care anymore. People will always misunderstand everything. Friendliness and unfriendliness. That's life. :)
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The general consensus among us guys (doesnt matter, indian/paki/bengali, fob/abcd) is that girls raised in the west are "relatively easier" than girls from back home. Now if they smile or dont smile, thats another story.
Now dont shoot the messenger for this. I understand the above was a generalization to which I don't particularly adhere to. I am just sharing what I hear.
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This mentality rode into workplace also, not just colleges and universities. I have noticed desi people especially pakistani/muslim tend to not be polite to each other and not even say hi/salam to other pakistanis/muslims but they are very friendly with non-pakistanis. I guess they dont want you to think they are interested.
I learnt this the hard way lol
I'm usually a vey polite, smiley person by nature, so if someone smiles at me or says 'good day' I always reciprocate. I used to frequent a local sandwich shop and one of the workers also attended my uni. He was a pakistani guy on a student visa, and we always had a bit of a chat about work/uni etc. Anyway I had never told him I was married (didnt really see the point it wasnt like he was flirting or giving any signals, so I assumed he realised it was platonic) and whenever me and my husband were in the shop together he was never there.
One day my husband and I were walking through the local park and I saw him playing cricket, I gave him a wave but he kinda gave me a dirty look but i didnt think much of it.
Next time I went into the shop and ordered a baguette, this guy started some all out attack on me infront of all the customers, claiming I was a slapper and a whore for chatting to him when I was married. He even said he had been speaking to his mom about me and that he had considered asking me to marry him (WTF). I was really shocked and embarressed, I promptly cancelled my order and have never been back to the shop.
I told my husband and he thought it was soo funny, I was quite shook up and supprised that general conversation could be so misinterpreted. Now I never speak to FOBs and if I have to I give them lots of dirty looks.
its so much tough for gals to survive in any society! I wonder why most of guys consider every gal as their property!
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what’s worse is how rude pakistanis are to their servants. treat em like utter crap. 
Why so racist and sexist, I say be rude to everybody, you can impress them later.
lol, good one :)
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girlz should take care of themselves in th way of ignoring boys...whn i was in pak only for 5 days...i donot know y all guys staring every n each girl..uff terrible...even in dubai labour especailly satring aloty..ufff ki bnayaga mundaz da!@!!!!
I learnt this the hard way lol
I'm usually a vey polite, smiley person by nature, so if someone smiles at me or says 'good day' I always reciprocate. I used to frequent a local sandwich shop and one of the workers also attended my uni. He was a pakistani guy on a student visa, and we always had a bit of a chat about work/uni etc. Anyway I had never told him I was married (didnt really see the point it wasnt like he was flirting or giving any signals, so I assumed he realised it was platonic) and whenever me and my husband were in the shop together he was never there.
One day my husband and I were walking through the local park and I saw him playing cricket, I gave him a wave but he kinda gave me a dirty look but i didnt think much of it.
Next time I went into the shop and ordered a baguette, this guy started some all out attack on me infront of all the customers, claiming I was a slapper and a whore for chatting to him when I was married. He even said he had been speaking to his mom about me and that he had considered asking me to marry him (WTF). I was really shocked and embarressed, I promptly cancelled my order and have never been back to the shop.
I told my husband and he thought it was soo funny, I was quite shook up and supprised that general conversation could be so misinterpreted. Now I never speak to FOBs and if I have to I give them lots of dirty looks.
It is funny lol
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njdude, no pakistanis in general.
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I agree, i was thinkin abt it..... I was just thinkin other day, what if i was one of those servents? Life must be really tough of on em (financially) otherwise no one wud take that crap.