Last day my aunt was telling me that don’t expect from others…try to Give, Give and Give as much as u can…this is not the first time i heard this advice but now i was thinking over it that how it can actually be practiced???How can i NOT expect from others??? Is that really practical ?? i feel it needs ages to learn this thing..but once u learn it u can reduce ur troubles to 50% i think…
How many of you have really learned this thing??and how it can be learned and practiced??
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I have learned it...and yes...it does take time to learn it. But once you do...it really does reduce the hurt you feel sometimes...but it also does not mean that you let ppl walk all over you...it always depends on the situation that life puts you in.
I never thought that I would one day learn how to give and expect nothing in return..but I know I have....when you love ppl and care abt them with ur whole heart...you learn how to give without expecting...
I have learned it...and yes...it does take time to learn it. But once you do...it really does reduce the hurt you feel sometimes...but it also does not mean that you let ppl walk all over you...it always depends on the situation that life puts you in.
I never thought that I would one day learn how to give and expect nothing in return..but I know I have....when you love ppl and care abt them with ur whole heart...you learn how to give without expecting...
same here :)..
its NOT easy in starting...but once u start u will learn one by one all step of this situation...but for that U HAVE TO TAKE FIRST STEP...dont think that how and where to start?...JUSt start...and it will teach you how to give but expact nothing in return..
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I know…u should not think…I never thought too…I just did what I felt was right…and what was needed to be done.
Ofcoz sometimes I sit and think, “What am i? a freaking angel?” but doesn’t matter after a while…and you feel happy that you can bring happiness to someone without expecting anything in return…just feels good.
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well its easy to learn it. you know the the problem with us we expect that the next person "could" be as nice as we are .. .. stop expecting this .. always think that he is gona be at his worst when you need him .. .. thinking that do the deed or nice thing that you wana do .. it would not come into your mind that he is gona pay you in return.
The second important step towards its learning is .. .. "BE INDEPENDENT" .. don't ever think that someone is gona help you .. consider yourself alone and whatever you have to do .. its gona be you only. if its time of difficulty then don't expect someone gona come to give you a shoulder to cry on .. .. this world is harsh and busy .. people doesn't have that much time out of their lives to sit and listen to your tension bhari dastan .. :) .. .. be independent and only rely on God .. .. all things will sit on their proper places then .. :)
well its easy to learn it. you know the the problem with us we expect that the next person "could" be as nice as we are .. .. stop expecting this .. always think that he is gona be at his worst when you need him .. .. thinking that do the deed or nice thing that you wana do .. it would not come into your mind that he is gona pay you in return.
The second important step towards its learning is .. .. "BE INDEPENDENT" .. don't ever think that someone is gona help you .. consider yourself alone and whatever you have to do .. its gona be you only. if its time of difficulty then don't expect someone gona come to give you a shoulder to cry on .. .. this world is harsh and busy .. people doesn't have that much time out of their lives to sit and listen to your tension bhari dastan .. :) .. .. be independent and only rely on God .. .. all things will sit on their proper places then .. :)
if i think like that , i dont think i wud be able to do good to that person..itz human psychy..wen u know someone is gonna be too bad to u, u dun feel like even talking to that person...
I have learned it...and yes...it does take time to learn it. But once you do...it really does reduce the hurt you feel sometimes...but it also does not mean that you let ppl walk all over you...it always depends on the situation that life puts you in.
I never thought that I would one day learn how to give and expect nothing in return..but I know I have....when you love ppl and care abt them with ur whole heart...you learn how to give without expecting...
hmmm..thatz nice :)
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the sooner you learn the better -- hakuna matata
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The only people I can do that with is my family (parents, siblings, spouse, in-laws, kids).... thats it... baaqi sai expectations automatically ban jaati hain.
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I think it takes time to learn it. I also think that sometimes the more you're let down by people....you may develop a thicker skin.....and not let their lack of tact affect you so deeply.
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*I hate doing this stuff, not for family, but for others. I'm always like, what do they do for us? *
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Dale Carnegie talks about expectations in his book "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living". One reason people are so stressed is that they expect others to thank them and appreciate them etc.
Even parents expect their kids to appreciate all that they do for them, as kids should. However, eventually they stop noticing that mom wakes up an hour early to prepare breakfast for everyone and then leaves for work when the kids leave for school.
Bottom line, do nice things for others but don't expect them to bend over backwards thanking you. You will lead a much happier, worry free life. And in the end your kindness is eventually repaid.
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i give once and i give again, if i dont recieve, i never give again.
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il do things (give) for people i care about coz if they are worth me caring about, they wont just constantly take they will give back aswell.
If i see a elderly auntyjee il give my seat away even if other girls wont, why? coz i exepect others to do that for my mum.
but i know when to stop so i dont feel lyk im being walked over.
ps remember not to give too much :)